Relationship Matrix
AXES
Emotional Compatibility: Low → High
Sexual Compatibility: Low → High
🟥 QUADRANT 1 — LOW EMOTIONAL / LOW SEXUAL
“THE DRAINING RELATIONSHIP”
Patterns Found Here
- The Roommate Relationship
- Silent Treatment / Cold War Couple
- The Combat Zone
- “Should-We-Even-Be-Together?” Pair
Characteristics
- Disconnection • Low desire • Frequent conflict
- Emotional numbness • No repair cycles
Long-Term Outlook: Not sustainable
🟧 QUADRANT 2 — LOW EMOTIONAL / HIGH SEXUAL
“THE CHEMISTRY TRAP”
Patterns Found Here
- Situationship
- Trauma Bond
- “Hot and Cold” Partner
- The Affair Dynamic
- “We Only Get Along in Bed” Couple
Characteristics
- Wild chemistry • Low clarity
- Emotional unavailability
- Break-up / make-up cycles
- Intensity mistaken for intimacy
Long-Term Outlook: Addictive but unstable
🟩 QUADRANT 3 — HIGH EMOTIONAL / LOW SEXUAL
“THE HEART-FIRST RELATIONSHIP”
Patterns Found Here
- Loyal Companions
- Slow Burn Couple
- “I Love You But I’m Not In Love” Pair
- Post-Trauma Healing Relationships
- Desire Discrepancy Couples
Characteristics
- Safety • Trust • Warmth
- Sex less frequent or mismatched
- Communication often strong
Long-Term Outlook: Stable; sexual mismatch can improve
🟦 QUADRANT 4 — HIGH EMOTIONAL / HIGH SEXUAL
“THE SECURE, CONNECTED RELATIONSHIP”
Patterns Found Here
- Best-Friend Lovers
- Securely Attached Partners
- Growth-Oriented Couples
- “We Solve Problems Together” Pair
Characteristics
- Emotional safety + passion
- Mutual desire • Healthy communication
- Calm conflict resolution
Long-Term Outlook: Most resilient and fulfilling
SUMMARY TABLE
| Relationship Type | Emotional | Sexual | Quadrant |
|---|---|---|---|
| Roommate / Cold War | Low | Low | 🟥 Q1 |
| Trauma Bond | Low | High | 🟧 Q2 |
| Situationship | Low | High | 🟧 Q2 |
| Affair Dynamic | Low | High | 🟧 Q2 |
| Loyal Companions | High | Low | 🟩 Q3 |
| Slow Burn | High | Low | 🟩 Q3 |
| Securely Attached Lovers | High | High | 🟦 Q4 |
| Best-Friend Lovers | High | High | 🟦 Q4 |
KEY INSIGHTS
- Chemistry cannot substitute for compatibility.
- Safety without passion becomes friendship.
- Passion without safety becomes chaos.
- The healthiest relationships balance both.
