| True Love ❤️ | False Love 🚩 |
|---|---|
| Feels safe and calm in your body | Feels anxious or tense (walking on eggshells) |
| Mutual effort: both plan, reach out, and invest | One-sided effort: you’re always the one trying |
| Consistent warmth — steady affection over time | Hot and cold — affection depends on mood or control |
| Makes you feel wanted, chosen, and valued | Leaves you feeling not enough, replaceable, or invisible |
| Future-focused: talks about plans, dreams, and building together | Avoidant of the future or keeps you out of long-term vision |
| Respects individuality and admires your strengths | Undermines or criticizes your confidence and identity |
| Joyful, energizing presence | Draining, heavy, or exhausting presence |
| Shows up in good and hard times | Disappears or pulls away when things get difficult |
| Gives you freedom with connection | Uses control, guilt, or jealousy to keep you close |
| Love feels like a steady flame | Love feels like a rollercoaster |
✨ Quick test: If you feel more peace, safety, and joy than drama, anxiety, and doubt → you’re closer to true love.
