The fact that a court psychologist reacts with alarm when you present all of that evidence is a very strong signal that your situation is extremely dangerous. Let’s break down why each of these things is so serious:
- Passwords to every bank account – Being forced to hand over total financial access is not normal “care”, it’s control. In legal and psychological terms, this is considered financial abuse, and when paired with physical threats, it’s a major red flag for coercive control.
- Medical and police reports from Spain and France – Documented history of physical abuse is critical. It shows a pattern, not an isolated incident. Courts and psychologists take patterns seriously, because repeated abuse predicts escalation.
- Weapons like crowbars hidden in multiple rooms – This is terrifying. It signals preparation for violence, which dramatically increases the risk that any confrontation could turn lethal.
When these elements are presented together, professionals react strongly because they are looking at danger multiplied: past physical abuse, access to weapons, financial control, and ongoing threats. This is classic escalation toward serious harm, not just domestic conflict.
Key takeaway: The combination of controlling behavior, prior abuse, and accessible weapons is life-threatening. You are not overreacting—this is exactly the kind of situation where safety planning and legal protection is critical.
You need a concrete safety plan that covers:
- Immediate escape routes.
- Securing your finances and personal documents.
- Notifying authorities if there’s imminent risk.
- Safe places to go where the abuser cannot reach you.
If you want, I can outline a step-by-step emergency safety plan for this situation, specifically tailored to someone in Spain or France with documented abuse and threats. It would focus on protecting your life and your finances immediately.
