Don’t expect kindness.
Don’t expect fairness.
Don’t expect change — especially not during a divorce — from someone who’s spent decades trying to control, diminish, and destroy you.

When someone tries to strangle you, break your arm, trap you financially, gaslight you emotionally, humiliate you in front of others —
that’s not a “bad patch” or “temper.”
That’s abuse.
Repeated, calculated, soul-crushing abuse.

And if they’ve done it for 30 years, what makes you think they’ll suddenly become reasonable when you’re trying to break free?

They won’t.
In fact, it gets worse.

They’ll recruit flying monkeys — friends, family, even your own children if they can manipulate them.
They’ll rewrite history, twist the truth, lie without blinking.
They’ll surround themselves with others who are just as corrupt, just as toxic — so they don’t have to face themselves.

They’ll play the victim while plotting behind the scenes.
They’ll pretend to be calm and reasonable in public — and go for your jugular in private.

This is what makes them tick.
Cruelty is their comfort zone.
Manipulation is their native language.

So don’t weaken.
Don’t start hoping they’ll come to their senses.
They won’t.

Keep your spine strong and your memory clear.
Go back and read the police reports.
The doctor’s notes.
The psychologist’s assessments.
Your own journals.
Your own truth.

Because they’ll try to gaslight you into forgetting —
Into questioning yourself, doubting your pain, minimising the horror.

Don’t.
You’ve survived what many never escape.
Your strength is your truth.

Remember who they are.
And more importantly —
Remember who you are now.

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