Call me old-fashioned (or just traumatically wise), but whatever happened to the art of courting? You know, that slow-burn dance of romance where someone actually calls you, makes plans in advance (gasp), and asks how your day was without following it up with “wyd at 2am?” 😬
Nowadays, the only people who seem to know how to do old-school romance are the love bombers — and boy, do they come in hot. One minute you’re being serenaded with compliments, surprise dinners, good morning texts, and poetry you suspect might be AI-generated… and the next? Boom 💣— they vanish, or worse, reveal their true form: a commitment-phobic ghost with three burner phones and unresolved childhood trauma.
So what SHOULD a real relationship look like in the beginning?
Let’s compare, shall we?
👑 Courtship (Then):
- He picks you up ON TIME.
- You talk for hours, no screens, just vibes.
- Flowers. Real ones. Not emojis.
- You get to know their character before their favourite position.
- Eye contact. Soul contact. Slight social anxiety but romantic tension.
💣 Love Bombing (Now):
- “Hey beautiful 😍” turns into “Where you at?” in 24 hours.
- Three dates, six soul-baring convos, and one “You’re my twin flame” later — they ghost.
- The flowers wilted because they were for their last victim.
- The love was intense, fast, and confusing. Like a rollercoaster with no seatbelt.
- One minute you’re his goddess, the next he’s on “a healing journey” with his ex.
So is real courtship dead?
Not dead. Just hiding. Possibly in therapy. Or at a farmer’s market.
Truth is, healthy beginnings are usually slower. Quieter. Less fireworks, more steady kindling. It’s not “we’re soulmates” on week two — it’s “I’d like to keep getting to know you.” It’s not possessive passion, it’s respectful presence.
But here’s the thing — in this world of swiping, texting, ghosting, and trauma bonding disguised as destiny — we forget that love isn’t meant to feel like survival. It’s meant to feel safe.
So yes, give me the old-fashioned stuff any day.
Hold the bomb, keep the love.
Give me tea dates, slow burns, good conversation, and a man who doesn’t flinch when I say, “I like to take things slow — because I know my worth now.”
“These days, courtship only comes from love bombers and TikTok advice threads. Real romance? It’s out there — it’s just not in a rush. 🚩Watch the pace, not the passion.”
💗 Share if you’re over the fake intimacy, and ready for the real, real thing — even if it comes in the form of someone who actually respects your boundaries, calls when they say they will, and has the emotional literacy of a slightly evolved adult.
#OldFashionedNotOutdated #LoveWithoutTheBombs
