There’s something profoundly unsettling about watching those who shout the loudest about morality, legality, or integrity—while simultaneously turning a blind eye to their own transgressions, or worse, those of their family.

It’s a story as old as time. A person accuses another of being involved in something “wrong,” “shameful,” or even “illegal”—but conveniently forgets that their own circle has been deeply entangled in the very same things. They may even profit from those connections. Do deals behind closed doors. Associate with the very people they publicly condemn. All to save a few coins. To appear superior. Or to deflect attention.

From a psychological perspective, this is classic projection. It’s a defense mechanism—one where people unconsciously deny their own flaws and instead attribute them to someone else. Because it’s far easier to point the finger outward than to turn it inward.

But hypocrisy doesn’t just live in personal denial. It thrives in environments where appearances are everything. Where image trumps authenticity. Where being seen as good matters more than being good. And this is where the most dangerous double standards take root.

Imagine this: someone accuses you of behavior they find “immoral”—but they’ve done business with people in that very realm. They’ve turned a blind eye to their own family’s illegal dealings. They’ve laughed over dinner about shady deals made in the name of profit. But when it’s you, suddenly, it’s a crime. Suddenly, it’s unforgivable.

It begs the question: is the issue really your actions? Or is the issue you?

Because often, those who are quickest to condemn are the ones who are most desperate to hide. Condemnation becomes a smokescreen. A moral high ground built on sand. And while their words may be loud, their integrity is often silent.

Psychologically speaking, this behavior reflects insecurity, shame, and a deep fear of exposure. If they shine the spotlight on you, maybe no one will notice what’s going on in their own backyard.

But here’s the truth: authenticity will always outlive hypocrisy. And those who live aligned with their values—even if imperfectly—will always walk with more peace than those who build their identity on deception and double standards.

So, to those who have been falsely accused, scapegoated, or shamed by hypocrites: you are not what they say you are. Their finger-pointing reveals far more about them than it does about you. Don’t take on their shame. It doesn’t belong to you.

Let their mask slip on its own. Truth has a way of rising.

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— Linda C J Turner

Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment