When someone steps in and stirs the pot before a court case, it can make an already difficult situation much worse. Encouraging someone to “teach a lesson” or “prove a point” usually backfires, leading to more tension, hostility, and emotional turmoil. It can also create a toxic cycle where the real issues get buried under anger and retaliation.

If a relative is adding fuel to the fire, it’s important to set boundaries and focus on the bigger picture—justice, fairness, and personal well-being. Courts value calm, rational behavior, not emotional outbursts driven by outside influence. Instead of engaging in their drama, staying focused on your own healing and legal strategy is the best way forward.

Have you noticed any specific patterns in how this relative behaves? Sometimes, people escalate situations out of their own insecurities or personal agendas rather than truly wanting to help.