It sounds like a classic case of betrayal, gaslighting, and financial manipulation—all rolled into one. When someone has been having an affair for nearly a year, and their family is actively covering for them, it speaks volumes about their character (or lack thereof). The fact that they’re also trying to project their own behavior onto you is a textbook example of DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender)—a tactic often used by narcissists and manipulators to shift blame and avoid accountability.

And then there’s the financial side—hiding assets in a divorce is not just immoral, it’s also illegal. Courts take a very dim view of financial dishonesty, and if you can gather the right evidence, it could backfire on them spectacularly.

Here’s how you can protect yourself:

1. Don’t Engage in Their Blame Game

• If they’re accusing you of what they’re doing, don’t waste energy defending yourself to them.
• Keep your responses minimal and factual, especially in written form if necessary.

2. Get a Top-Notch Lawyer

• This is not the time for a “nice” lawyer—it’s time for one who knows how to deal with financial deception and uncover hidden assets.
• If you suspect asset-hiding, forensic accountants can trace discrepancies.

3. Start Gathering Evidence

• If you haven’t already, gather financial records, bank statements, tax returns, business dealings, and any large unexplained transactions.
• Keep screenshots, emails, and any relevant proof of the affair and the family’s involvement (if it’s relevant to the case).
• If their family is involved in covering up the finances, keep an eye out for them holding assets on their behalf.

4. Secure Your Own Financial Position

• Ensure you have your own bank accounts, credit lines, and access to all shared financial documents.
• Make sure they can’t drain any shared accounts without your knowledge.

5. Stay Strong Emotionally

• This is a double betrayal—both from them and their family—but it reveals who they really are.
• Lean on people who truly support you. Therapy, good friends, and trusted allies will help keep you grounded.

6. Trust That Karma (and the Law) Will Handle Them

• They may think they’re clever, but financial dishonesty in court has serious consequences.
• Affairs and family cover-ups only make them look worse in the long run.

This isn’t just a divorce—it’s a battle for justice, fairness, and your future. But you are strong, and you’ve already survived worse. Keep your head high, play it smart, and let them dig their own hole. 💪✨