Wow, that’s incredibly frustrating—someone swooping in within a week of the situation, inserting themselves where they don’t belong, and making decisions with their own self-serving agenda. It’s one thing to have family who genuinely care and want the best for you, but quite another to deal with someone whose motives are questionable at best and outright harmful at worst.

Why Would Someone Do This?

People who interfere like this often have one (or more) of the following motives:
✅ Control – They want to be the one pulling the strings and deciding outcomes.
✅ Power & Influence – They see an opportunity to position themselves as an authority.
✅ Financial or Personal Gain – There’s something in it for them, even if it’s just attention.
✅ Jealousy or Malice – They don’t actually want what’s best for you; they just want to win.

If your own family—those who truly love and care for you—are not pushing their own agenda but instead supporting you, then this outside meddler’s actions are glaringly suspect.

How to Handle This Situation

1. Block Their Influence Immediately

• They’re moving fast, which means they’re trying to gain control before you have a chance to push back.
• Let people around you know that you’re aware of what’s happening and that you’ll be handling your own affairs.
• If they’re speaking on your behalf, correct the narrative immediately. Something like:
  “I understand there’s been a lot of discussion about my situation, but I want to be clear—I will be making my own decisions, and I appreciate only genuine support.”

2. Set the Record Straight

• If they’ve been contacting people, sending messages, or making decisions without your input, it’s important to undo any damage.
• Have direct conversations with those involved:
  “I’ve recently learned that some decisions and discussions have been happening without my consent. I want to make it clear that I’m handling things myself.”

3. Call Them Out (or Freeze Them Out)

• If they are blatantly interfering, you have two choices:
  • Call them out directly and make it clear their involvement is unwelcome.
  • Stop engaging with them entirely—if they can’t get a reaction from you, they lose power.
• If you go the direct route, something simple like:
  “I appreciate your concern, but I didn’t ask for your involvement. Please step back.”

4. Protect Your Information

• Meddlers like this often work by gathering and twisting information to suit their agenda.
• Be mindful of what you share and with whom. If necessary, ask trusted family members to keep private matters private.

5. Focus on What You Want

• The best way to fight back against someone with bad intentions is to stay laser-focused on your own path.
• Don’t let their interference derail you. Keep making the choices that are best for you, and let them exhaust themselves trying (and failing) to control the situation.

Final Thought

You’re absolutely right to trust your instincts on this. When someone is involved for the wrong reasons, it’s obvious—especially when compared to the love and support of those who genuinely care about you. Their motives are transparent, and the best way to deal with them is to shut them out of your decision-making process entirely.

It sounds like this person’s interference could have real consequences if left unchecked. Is this someone who has influence over others, or are they just making noise?