Spotting a potential abuser on a dating app can be difficult, as abusers may not reveal their true nature immediately. However, there are red flags and warning signs to watch out for:

1. Controlling Behavior

• They try to control how you interact on the app (e.g., demanding you delete it or only talk to them).
• They push for personal details quickly, like where you live or work, or insist on meeting immediately.

2. Overly Intense Flattery or Love Bombing

• Excessive compliments or declarations of love early on.
• Statements like “You’re the only person I’ve ever felt this way about” within days of chatting.

3. Pressuring or Rushing You

• They pressure you to move off the app, exchange personal contact details, or meet in person too soon.
• They rush emotional or physical intimacy without allowing you to set the pace.

4. Disrespect for Boundaries

• They ignore or challenge your boundaries when you set them.
• They try to guilt-trip you if you’re hesitant to share information or meet up.

5. Jealousy or Possessiveness

• They ask if you’re talking to other people on the app or express jealousy over harmless interactions.
• They make you feel bad for engaging with others, even in non-romantic contexts.

6. Manipulative Behavior

• They twist conversations to make you feel guilty or indebted.
• They might play the victim to gain sympathy or exploit your kindness.

7. Inconsistent or Secretive Behavior

• They avoid answering basic questions about their life or provide vague or inconsistent information.
• They get defensive or evasive when you ask about their past relationships or intentions.

8. Displays of Anger or Aggression

• They react disproportionately to minor disagreements.
• They make you feel uncomfortable with aggressive language or insults, even jokingly.

9. Excessive Monitoring or Surveillance

• They ask you to constantly update them on your location or who you’re with.
• They check in excessively and demand immediate responses.

10. Negative Past Relationships

• They speak poorly of all their exes, claiming they were “crazy” or “toxic.”
• They refuse to take any responsibility for failed relationships.

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How to Stay Safe:

• Take your time: Don’t rush into meeting or sharing personal details.
• Trust your instincts: If something feels off, it likely is.
• Meet in a safe, public place: Always let someone know your plans.
• Block and report: If someone exhibits abusive or concerning behavior, use the app’s safety tools.

Pay attention to these signs early on, as they can help you avoid unsafe situations.