It’s almost as if they’ve taken it upon themselves to play a role in decisions that should be made by the individual, disregarding their autonomy and ability to make their own choices. It’s a form of control that’s so insidious because it’s cloaked in the guise of “helping” or “protecting” someone. They undermine the person’s own judgment, essentially deciding what’s best for them without their consent or input. It creates a situation where the individual feels trapped, as if they’re being forced into a corner with no room to maneuver.

This kind of interference creates an almost impossible dynamic, where the person being controlled feels powerless to act without being scrutinized or dictated to. Not only does it breed resentment, but it also erodes the trust and respect that should naturally exist within relationships. The person who is being manipulated or treated as incapable often feels invalidated, as if their thoughts, feelings, and decisions don’t matter. And that can be deeply disempowering.

What’s even more frustrating is that those who act this way often fail to see the damage they’re causing. They might justify their behavior by saying they know what’s best, or they believe they’re acting in the best interest of the person they’re interfering with. But in reality, they’re making things harder, creating conflict, and imposing their will in ways that suffocate growth and self-determination.

In these situations, it can be incredibly challenging to regain control of your own life and choices. But recognizing the interference for what it is—manipulation masked as care—can be the first step in reclaiming your power. You’re not incapable. You’re not helpless. You deserve the freedom to make your own decisions, and the more you honor that, the more you distance yourself from those who try to control or undermine you. Their actions may leave you feeling cornered for a time, but you have the strength to break free and protect your right to self-determination.