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A Trauma-Informed Guide to Dating Again After Loss, Divorce, or Long-Term Relationships

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Dating in midlife is not the same as dating when you were younger. Your nervous system now carries: This means your body seeks safety before excitement — even if your mind wants connection. From a neuroscience and psychological perspective, this is not hesitation.It is emotional intelligence. 1. The Midlife Nervous System: Why Dating Feels Different Now After… Read More A Trauma-Informed Guide to Dating Again After Loss, Divorce, or Long-Term Relationships

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A Trauma-Sensitive Explanation for Survivors

Discovering that a partner has been paying for sex can be profoundly destabilizing. It often triggers shock, grief, rage, confusion, humiliation, betrayal, and deep emotional pain — sometimes all at once. This reaction is not dramatic.It is a normal nervous-system response to relational trauma. Why This Hurts So Deeply This kind of discovery doesn’t just break trust.It fractures… Read More A Trauma-Sensitive Explanation for Survivors

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Paying for Sex — Neuroscience & Psychology

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Paying for sex is not primarily about sex.From a neuroscience and psychological perspective, it is most often about power, control, emotional safety, attachment wounds, and nervous-system regulation. 1. The Neuroscience: Control Over Connection Healthy sexual intimacy activates: But true intimacy requires emotional vulnerability, which activates deeper brain regions responsible for: For many people, this vulnerability feels unsafe. So… Read More Paying for Sex — Neuroscience & Psychology

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Why Some Families Actively Join in Cruelty

Psychology & Family System Dynamics 1. Why Some Families Actively Join in Cruelty Some families don’t just enable cruelty — they participate in it. This happens when cruelty becomes: Psychological Drivers: This is called: Collective abuse dynamics 2. Why Siblings Sometimes Become Aggressors In abusive or high-control families, siblings often compete for: Common sibling roles: ➤… Read More Why Some Families Actively Join in Cruelty

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Why Some Families Enable Cruelty

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Here is a clear, compassionate, psychologically grounded explanation of why some families enable cruelty — especially in abusive dynamics. This is about understanding patterns, not excusing harm. Psychology, Family Systems & Trauma Dynamics Core Truth Families often enable cruelty not because they approve of it — but because the family system is organized around fear, denial, loyalty pressure, and emotional… Read More Why Some Families Enable Cruelty

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Vexatious Litigation / High Conflict Personality Litigation

Some people will spend tens — even hundreds — of thousands fighting nothing. Not to resolve.Not to protect themselves.But to maintain dominance, punish independence, and avoid losing psychological power. Here’s what psychology, neuroscience, and legal research all show about this: Why Some People Spend Vast Sums Fighting Pointlessly 1. Control is more important than money For these personalities: Power… Read More Vexatious Litigation / High Conflict Personality Litigation

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What is control?

Here’s a clear, grounded definition of control, with concrete real-world examples, especially in the context of abuse, coercive control, and unhealthy power dynamics: What is control? Control is the systematic use of fear, pressure, threat, manipulation, or power to override another person’s autonomy, choices, safety, dignity, or freedom. It is not disagreement.It is domination. Core forms of control 1. Threat-based control… Read More What is control?

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Serial Daters Who Target Vulnerable Women With Property — A Neuroscience Perspective

There is a specific dating pattern that rarely gets named, yet many women eventually recognize it only after emotional, psychological, or financial harm has already occurred: Serial daters who actively seek out vulnerable women who have stability, property, or resources. This is not romance.It is strategic attachment. From a neuroscience perspective, this behavior is driven less… Read More Serial Daters Who Target Vulnerable Women With Property — A Neuroscience Perspective

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Why Emotionally Intelligent People Trust Too Deeply

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

1. High Empathy = High Projection Bias Emotionally intelligent people feel deeply, so their brain naturally assumes: “Others feel the way I do.” This is called empathic projection. Your nervous system is wired for: So your brain expects emotional coherence in others. But not all nervous systems are wired that way. This creates: over-trust based on internal truth,… Read More Why Emotionally Intelligent People Trust Too Deeply

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