Tag: Psychology

🧠 “I Know It’s Bad, But I Still Feel Attached…”

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Understanding & Healing Cognitive Dissonance in Abusive Relationships One of the most perplexing and painful experiences for survivors of abuse is the mental tug-of-war that happens long after the bruises fade. You know the relationship is harmful.You know you’re not safe.And yet… part of you still misses them, still loves them, or doubts yourself. This inner conflict isn’t weakness—it’s cognitive dissonance.… Read More 🧠 “I Know It’s Bad, But I Still Feel Attached…”

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“One-Sided Transactional Relationships: When Love Becomes a Currency of Control”

“He never paid for anything for my children. I paid from my own savings, always reminded to ‘use my own money.’ He resented the time I gave them. When my daughter visited, she hired her own car, paid for everything—even him. Meanwhile, he was rewriting wills in secret, calculating percentages, planning who got what like… Read More “One-Sided Transactional Relationships: When Love Becomes a Currency of Control”

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💸 When Money Becomes the Weapon: Deception, Control, and the Freedom of Walking Away

There’s a special kind of pain that comes not from strangers—but from family or partners who put money, power, and image above love, loyalty, and human connection. In families, in marriages, even in shared businesses or blended households, money can become a tool of deception—not just externally, but internally too. People deceive others, yes, but they also deceive themselves. They tell themselves… Read More 💸 When Money Becomes the Weapon: Deception, Control, and the Freedom of Walking Away

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When the Truth Comes Out: The Psychology Behind Post-Separation Honesty

Absolutely, what you’ve experienced is deeply affirming—and incredibly revealing, both socially and psychologically. Moments like these often mark key points in the healing journey, when you begin to see not only your own transformation but the way others perceived the situation all along, yet stayed silent. Here’s a long-form article exploring this from a psychological… Read More When the Truth Comes Out: The Psychology Behind Post-Separation Honesty

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🎭 “Dying” to Be the Centre of Attention? Be Careful What You Wish For…

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate 🎭 “Dying” to Be the Centre of Attention? Be Careful What You Wish For… Sometimes, life really does hand you a story that’s stranger than fiction. One minute, someone is telling you they’re at death’s door… the next, they’re swinging a tennis racket seven days a week… Read More 🎭 “Dying” to Be the Centre of Attention? Be Careful What You Wish For…

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🧠 Red Flags to Watch When a New Partner Pushes for Shared Finances and Property Too Soon

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Why Understanding Their Past Can Protect Your Future Entering a new relationship after experiencing trauma, abuse, or betrayal can feel like a fresh start—but it’s also a vulnerable time. The dopamine rush of attention, connection, and “new beginnings” can cloud our judgment, particularly when someone seems to offer… Read More 🧠 Red Flags to Watch When a New Partner Pushes for Shared Finances and Property Too Soon

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“Who Is the Vulture Here?”: A Psychological Perspective on Financial Gaslighting and Post-Abuse Blame

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate It’s a story I hear far too often—and one I have personally lived through. After decades of emotional labor, loyalty, and endurance in a long-term relationship, when the time comes to claim what is rightfully yours—suddenly, you become the villain. A gold-digger. A vulture. A threat to the false… Read More “Who Is the Vulture Here?”: A Psychological Perspective on Financial Gaslighting and Post-Abuse Blame

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When Love Becomes Control: A Psychological Perspective on Betrayal and Financial Abuse

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate They say love is patient, kind, and supportive.But what happens when the person who once said “I love you” begins to dismantle your life piece by piece — emotionally, financially, and psychologically? That’s not love.That’s control.That’s abuse. And when it’s masked under the language of affection or… Read More When Love Becomes Control: A Psychological Perspective on Betrayal and Financial Abuse

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Do Psychopathic and Emotionally Dysregulated Abusers Use Pornography and Secret Sex to Dominate and Feel Powerful?

The short answer is: Yes, very often they do.And clinically, this behavior ties directly into the same deficits in empathy, fear regulation, and impulse control that you just mentioned. Let’s go deeper into the psychology and neuroscience behind it: 1. Pornography, Sex, and the Reward System In all humans, sex and sexual imagery activate the brain’s reward circuits,… Read More Do Psychopathic and Emotionally Dysregulated Abusers Use Pornography and Secret Sex to Dominate and Feel Powerful?

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