Tag: #mindfulness

Entitlement isn’t confidence gone wrong

Entitlement isn’t confidence gone wrong — it’s powerlessness wrapped in dominance strategies. Here’s what’s happening under the hood, clinically and neurologically. 1. Core wound: unstable self-worth (developmental layer) Early experiences of: can leave the brain with a fragile self-model: “I’m not inherently secure or valued.” This lives largely in implicit memory (right hemisphere, limbic system), not conscious thought. So the… Read More Entitlement isn’t confidence gone wrong

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Why “aggressive” sticks (the conditioning layer)

For many women — especially thoughtful, capable, emotionally intelligent ones — the word aggressive is wired early as a danger signal, not a descriptor. 1. Early social conditioning (pre-verbal + verbal) From childhood, many girls learn — implicitly or explicitly: So the nervous system learns: Belonging = self-containment When “aggressive” is used later, it doesn’t land as feedback.It… Read More Why “aggressive” sticks (the conditioning layer)

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“Aggressive” is a social control label, not a diagnosis.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

What makes the accusation stick isn’t logic — it’s implicit shame + social threat memory. So we work somatically + cognitively, not by arguing with it. I’ll give you a clinical de-charging sequence you can actually use, plus a short script you can return to when the accusation echoes. Step 1: Separate signal from noise (this is crucial) When someone says “you’re aggressive,”… Read More “Aggressive” is a social control label, not a diagnosis.

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Strong Woman

When a strong woman is assertive and someone labels her “aggressive,” several neuroscience processes are often firing in the accuser, not in her. Let’s break it down cleanly. 1. Threat detection misfires (amygdala-driven) The amygdala scans for threat — not just physical danger, but status, control, and predictability. When someone expects: …and instead encounters calm boundaries + confidence, their brain may interpret… Read More Strong Woman

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Key Principles of Heart–Brain Neurodynamics

Let’s dive into the heart–brain neurodynamics—how the heart and brain communicate, influence each other, and regulate physiology, emotion, and cognition. I’ll break it down systematically. 1. Heart–Brain Communication Pathways The heart and brain are constantly exchanging information through several channels: A. Neural Pathways B. Hormonal & Biochemical Pathways C. Electromagnetic Field 2. Heart–Brain Feedback Loops The heart and… Read More Key Principles of Heart–Brain Neurodynamics

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1. What is the “Intelligence of the Heart”?

The term comes from heart–brain science, polyvagal theory, and biofeedback research. It refers to the heart’s ability to sense, respond, and influence physiological, emotional, and cognitive states. Key insight: The heart is not just a pump—it is a dynamic regulator of the nervous system. 2. Trauma and the Heart Trauma impacts the autonomic nervous system (ANS): Heart intelligence interventions aim to restore… Read More 1. What is the “Intelligence of the Heart”?

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HRV Biofeedback Cheat Sheet for Self-Regulation

1. Tools You’ll Need Tool Purpose Tips Chest strap HR monitor (Polar H10, Wahoo, Garmin) Most accurate HRV measurement Comfortable, wear snug but not tight Smartwatch or ring (Apple Watch, Oura, Garmin) Convenient HRV tracking Best for daily trends, not precise metrics HRV Biofeedback app (Elite HRV, Inner Balance, HeartMath, Kubios) Real-time feedback & guided… Read More HRV Biofeedback Cheat Sheet for Self-Regulation

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Regulate, Repair, and stay Resilient.

Staying physically and mentally healthy is a cornerstone of trauma recovery. Recovery isn’t just emotional; the body and mind need support to regulate, repair, and stay resilient. Here’s a structured approach for maintaining wellness during recovery: 1. Medical Health Regular check-ups keep you grounded and prevent neglect of your body: Consistency reinforces a sense of control over… Read More Regulate, Repair, and stay Resilient.

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Write the ending your brain didn’t get ✍️

Alright — here’s how to consciously close a Zeigarnik loop, step by step, in a way your nervous system can actually accept (not just your logic). This isn’t about “getting over it.”It’s about finishing the story your brain keeps replaying. Step 1: Name the open loop (precisely) Your brain can’t close what’s vague. Instead of: Name it like this:… Read More Write the ending your brain didn’t get ✍️

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What is the Zeigarnik effect?

The Zeigarnik effect is a psychological phenomenon where the brain remembers unfinished or interrupted experiences more strongly than completed ones. In simple terms: Your brain hates open loops. If something ends cleanly, the brain files it away.If something ends mid-emotion, mid-story, mid-hope — the brain keeps replaying it. Why it’s brutal in relationships 💔 Romantic situations are perfect Zeigarnik traps because… Read More What is the Zeigarnik effect?

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