Hear No Evil, See No Evil, Speak No Evil: A Psychological Lens on Silence, Survival, and Speaking Truth

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Most of us recognize the ancient image: three monkeys—one covering its ears, one its eyes, one its mouth.Hear no evil. See no evil. Speak no evil. At first glance, the proverb seems to encourage virtue: don’t listen to negativity, don’t look for wrongdoing, don’t gossip or spread… Read More Hear No Evil, See No Evil, Speak No Evil: A Psychological Lens on Silence, Survival, and Speaking Truth

When the Heart Aches: Understanding Social Pain Through the Lens of Neuroscience and Healing

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate We often associate pain with physical injury—a broken bone, a burn, a sprain. But what about the pain of being excluded, abandoned, or betrayed? What about the ache we feel after a breakup, or the raw vulnerability that follows rejection or bullying? This is what researchers now… Read More When the Heart Aches: Understanding Social Pain Through the Lens of Neuroscience and Healing

The Calm Messenger: When Abusers Send Family to Do Their Bidding

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate One of the more covert forms of post-separation abuse is when the abuser steps back and sends a third party—often a family member—to “mediate” or “calmly” communicate on their behalf. On the surface, these messages may appear rational, reasonable, even compassionate. But beneath that façade lies a… Read More The Calm Messenger: When Abusers Send Family to Do Their Bidding

The Illusion of Change: Understanding Manipulative Messaging After Abuse

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate When survivors of abuse begin to break free—whether through physical distance, legal steps like divorce, or emotional detachment—it is not uncommon to receive heartfelt, emotional, and seemingly repentant messages from their former partner. These messages are often laced with promises, declarations of love, and dreams of a… Read More The Illusion of Change: Understanding Manipulative Messaging After Abuse

Support Through Breakups, Divorce & Domestic Abuse: You Are Not Alone

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate At Linda C J Turner Therapy, we understand that the path through heartbreak, separation, and recovery from abuse can feel overwhelming and lonely. Whether you are experiencing the emotional shock of a breakup, navigating the complex aftermath of a divorce, or finding the courage to leave a domestic… Read More Support Through Breakups, Divorce & Domestic Abuse: You Are Not Alone

When Control Slips: The Will, the Divorce, and the Final Act of Retaliation

On October 16th, After the abuse I left the marital home and I filed for divorce. By October 17th, I had contacted the Delegation del Gobierno contra la Violencia de Género to report the abuse—something I had endured for far too long. The very next day, on October 18th, he changed his will. I did not leave in… Read More When Control Slips: The Will, the Divorce, and the Final Act of Retaliation

“Who Is the Vulture Here?”: A Psychological Perspective on Financial Gaslighting and Post-Abuse Blame

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate It’s a story I hear far too often—and one I have personally lived through. After decades of emotional labor, loyalty, and endurance in a long-term relationship, when the time comes to claim what is rightfully yours—suddenly, you become the villain. A gold-digger. A vulture. A threat to the false… Read More “Who Is the Vulture Here?”: A Psychological Perspective on Financial Gaslighting and Post-Abuse Blame

She’ll Believe His Lies—Until She Sees What We Did

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate He’s always in a hurry—rushing to secure the next relationship, to solidify the next source of attention, affection, and, most importantly, control. And of course, he’ll wear his best mask. Charming, attentive, wounded-but-strong. A man who’s just “never been truly understood,” spinning his story like silk. She… Read More She’ll Believe His Lies—Until She Sees What We Did