Mental health refers to a person’s emotional, psychological, and social well-being, encompassing the ability to handle stress, relate to others, make decisions, and navigate the challenges of life. It influences how individuals think, feel, and act, contributing to the overall balance and quality of their lives. Mental health is essential at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.
Staying physically and mentally healthy is a cornerstone of trauma recovery. Recovery isn’t just emotional; the body and mind need support to regulate, repair, and stay resilient. Here’s a structured approach for maintaining wellness during recovery: 1. Medical Health Regular check-ups keep you grounded and prevent neglect of your body: Consistency reinforces a sense of control over… Read More Regulate, Repair, and stay Resilient.
Alcohol can have a profound and often counterproductive impact on trauma recovery, both neurologically and psychologically. Here’s a detailed breakdown: 1. Nervous System Impact Trauma leaves the nervous system hypervigilant. Alcohol: 2. Memory & Trauma Processing Essentially, alcohol blocks the brain from integrating the trauma safely. 3. Emotional Dysregulation 4. Interpersonal Impact 5. Risk of Re-traumatization 6. Why… Read More Memory & Trauma Processing
When you’re traumatised, your nervous system is not choosing behaviour — it’s protecting you. So what looks like “wrecking the relationship” is often: None of this is character failure.It’s unhealed threat memory meeting intimacy. Why trauma sabotages something that matters Trauma does three things in relationships: 1. It mistakes closeness for danger When connection deepens, the body remembers:… Read More What “messing up” in trauma really is
(How it feels in the body, mind, and nervous system) 🧠 Nervous System Trauma Bonding Healthy Attraction Key question:Do they regulate me — or do I regulate myself? ❤️ Emotional Experience Trauma Bonding Healthy Attraction Key question:Is this intensity or intimacy? 🧱 Boundaries Trauma Bonding Healthy Attraction Key question:Am I staying aligned with myself? 🔄… Read More Trauma Bonding vs Healthy Attraction
Pause. Breathe. Answer honestly. No explanations required. 🧠 Nervous System Check If calm feels “boring” or unsettling, that may be trauma, not incompatibility. ❤️ Attachment Check Healthy attraction grows; trauma attachment accelerates. 🧱 Boundary Check If a boundary feels like rejection, pause — that’s old wiring speaking. 🪞Self-Respect Check Connection should expand you, not eclipse… Read More Dating While Healing — Self-Check
Meeting someone new while you’re still in trauma doesn’t mean you’re “doing it wrong” — but it does shape the relationship in very specific ways, whether people realise it or not. Let’s break it down gently and honestly. What trauma does to connection (even with good people) When you’re still in trauma recovery, your nervous system… Read More Mind and Body
After decades of abuse, the body and mind are often in a chronic survival state, even long after the relationship ends. This isn’t a flaw — it’s the nervous system doing exactly what it was built to do: protect you from ongoing threat. Understanding this helps identify which situations to avoid while rebuilding safety and autonomy. 1.… Read More Body and mind are often in a chronic survival state
This is often subtle and gradual, not dramatic. Neuroscience + psychology line up here: Signal What’s Happening Internally Outcome Sudden clarity Prefrontal cortex takes control over amygdala-driven fear loops Realisation: I don’t have to negotiate my worth anymore Shift from hope to self-interest Dopamine cravings from intermittent reinforcement fade Attachment energy is redirected internally Internal boundary… Read More The Exact Internal Moment When Strength Reclaims Itself
These traits cluster together. You rarely see just one. 🔻 Core targeting traits (They are not always obvious at first.) Strong women signal supply to these traits: competence, credibility, emotional depth, resilience. 2. How strength slowly gets turned against itself This is the quiet inversion that happens over time. Stage 1: Strength is admired Your competence feels… Read More Personality traits most likely to target strong women
Here’s why, clearly and without myth. 1. Strength Looks Like a Resource to a Predator Abusive personalities don’t look for “weakness” in the way people imagine. They scan for: To them, this signals: “This person can absorb pressure, adapt, and keep functioning.” That’s not romance. That’s resource assessment. 2. Intelligence Enables Rationalisation (Early On) Highly intelligent… Read More Strong, intelligent women are not targeted despite their strength.They are often targeted because of it.
