Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that encompasses a range of feelings, attitudes, and behaviors. It can be experienced in various forms, including romantic love, familial love, platonic love, and self-love. Here are some key aspects of love:
There are moments in healing that don’t arrive loudly. They don’t announce themselves.They don’t feel like victory speeches or dramatic endings. Sometimes they simply feel like this: “I feel alive again.” For me, that realisation came after 18 months of therapy and deep self-reflection. Not quickly. Not easily. Not without setbacks. But gradually… something shifted.… Read More Feeling Alive After Abuse
Sometimes when you call someone out on their avoidant behavior—kindly, directly, and with receipts—they don’t respond with reflection. They respond with theatre. You say:“Your actions and words aren’t matching.” They say:“Yep. I’m just a bad boy. Go away.” Cue dramatic exit. It sounds humorous. Maybe even self-aware. But psychologically, this is often not accountability. It’s deflection.… Read More Separating the Men from the Boys: “Yes, I’m Just a Bad Boy—Now Go Away”
Avoidant coping is a psychological strategy where a person manages stress, discomfort, or emotional pain by avoiding it rather than engaging with it. It often provides short-term relief—but usually creates long-term problems. What it looks like Instead of dealing with something directly, a person may: Example:A partner says, “Can we talk about where this relationship is going?”The avoidant person… Read More Avoidant coping
Recognizing emotionally unavailable partners often means learning to notice patterns, not isolated moments. Anyone can be distant during a stressful week.Emotional unavailability is different: it’s a repeated inability or unwillingness to build emotional closeness. Here are common signs. 1. Inconsistency: hot and cold They may: This creates confusion:“Do they care—or not?” That confusion itself is often the clue. Psychologically,… Read More Emotionally unavailable partners
“Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop knocking on doors that were never going to open—and start building a home within yourself.” This idea sounds poetic, but beneath it sits a powerful truth rooted in both psychology and neuroscience. At its core, it means this: Stop looking outside yourself for emotional safety, validation, and belonging—and begin… Read More Why We Keep Knocking on Closed Doors
One of the hardest lessons in life is realizing that not everything—or everyone—you long for is capable of giving you what you need. Sometimes we keep returning to the same people, places, or patterns hoping that this time it will feel different.This time they will understand.This time they will show up.This time they will offer the comfort,… Read More Healing Begins When You Stop Seeking Warmth from Cold Places
First dates are not auditions. They are not job interviews. They are not performances.They are an opportunity to answer one simple question: Do we enjoy each other’s company enough to want a second date? Yet people often overcomplicate the first date—choosing the “perfect” venue, worrying about what to wear, what to say, and the age-old… Read More First Dates
Moving house is often more than just a physical relocation—it’s a deeply emotional journey, especially when it involves sorting through years of shared memories and possessions. For many, the process of packing and unpacking can feel like reliving the past repeatedly, stirring up complex feelings and unresolved attachments. After packing and unpacking multiple times, the… Read More Moving on: Embracing a fresh start by letting go of the past
Many people find themselves trapped in relationships where their anxious attachment style keeps them holding on longer than is healthy, hoping things will improve. This pattern often leads to emotional pain, especially in abusive relationships. After years of struggle and self-reflection, healing is possible. Here’s a personal journey and insight into why recognizing and moving… Read More Living with Anxious Attachment
How to Come Out of a Divorce Looking Like You Just Walked Off a Spa Commercial (While Secretly Surviving Chaos) Divorce: the ultimate life plot twist. You’ve navigated restraining orders, financial headaches, and emotional rollercoasters, yet here you are — looking like you just stepped out of a magazine shoot. Friends who haven’t seen you… Read More Emerging from a divorce with strength and sanity
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 