There’s a sentence almost every survivor of coercive control hears at some point: “If you leave me, you’ll end up with nothing.” It sounds like a warning.It’s actually a confession. No healthy partner says this.Only someone who benefits from your fear needs you to believe that your life without them is smaller than your life with… Read More “If You Leave Me, You’ll End Up With Nothing” — What This Threat Really Means
To all the women who laughed when they visited my house — watching me painting, decorating, fixing things, putting up shelves, paying for this and that, all while still working and running a household — I remember every smile, every comment, every raised eyebrow. To those who thought it was so funny watching me do all the… Read More Who’s the Stupid One Now?By Linda C. J. Turner
By Linda C. J. Turner | Trauma Therapist & Neuroscience Practitioner© LindaCJTurner.com We all want to see the best in people. In relationships — romantic, friendship, or family — we often excuse behaviors that hurt us. “He’s just stressed.”“She didn’t mean it.”“They’re going through a hard time.” But over time, making excuses becomes a trap. It… Read More Stop Making Excuses: See People as They Truly Are
Do you ever find yourself saying, “It’s fine, I don’t mind,” when you absolutely do mind?Do you keep helping, fixing, and rescuing — then end up frustrated, exhausted, and muttering, “Why do I attract these people?” Welcome to the world of the People Pleaser — kind-hearted, over-giving, and apparently wearing an invisible sign that says: “Free emotional labour and snacks inside.” 🧠 The… Read More The People-Pleaser’s Brain: Why Users and Abusers Love You So Much
Let’s be honest — we’ve all met one.That friend who arrives “just as dinner’s ready.”The one who forgets their wallet more often than their birthday.The one who’s always “between jobs,” “waiting for a transfer,” or “just about to pay you back.” Welcome to the world of freeloaders — a curious species of human who can spot generosity faster than a… Read More Freeloaders: Psychological Guide to the Human Parasite
Real friendship is a two-way thing.It’s calling someone when they need support.It’s caring — really caring.It’s listening.It’s inviting them over when life feels heavy.It’s showing up.It’s offering emotional — and sometimes even financial — support when you can.It’s trust.It’s respect.It’s loyalty.It’s give and take, not take and take. 🧠 The Neuroscience Behind Real Connection Our brains are wired… Read More Real Friendship: The Neuroscience of Genuine Connection
It always catches me by surprise when someone says, “I’ve been observing you all evening — you’re quiet, but you still find the fun.” At first, it sounds like a casual remark. But underneath, it’s deeply insightful.Because it tells us something profound about how presence communicates — even in silence. 🧠 Observation is a form of… Read More The Quiet Power of Being Observed
An introvert and a social (extroverted) person can have a deeply fulfilling relationship together.But it requires mutual understanding of nervous system differences, not just personality traits. Let’s unpack this with a bit of psychology and neuroscience 👇 🧠 1. Different Nervous System Baselines Introverts and extroverts are wired differently at the brain level: 💡 In practice:The extrovert says, “Let’s go out, I need energy.”The introvert… Read More Middle ground
🎭 The Performance Meet Billy Bullshitter.On paper — or rather, on profile — he’s a visionary entrepreneur, self-taught pilot, retired brain surgeon, and part-time philosopher who “just loves deep conversations about the universe.” In reality, he’s an ordinary guy in search of extraordinary validation. Billy’s not trying to sell a product. He’s selling himself — or rather, a carefully… Read More 🚀 Billy Bullshitter: The Neuroscience of the Pretend Entrepreneur, Rocket Scientist, Playboy, and Brain Surgeon
Once upon a time, there was a woman who thought joy had an expiration date. That laughter was something you had to earn — usually after walking through fire, dodging manipulation, and surviving someone who made Christmas feel like a crime scene. But here’s the twist: she didn’t just survive the Grinch. She outdanced him. 💫 Freedom tastes like coffee… Read More 🌸 Life After the Grinch: A Mother-Daughter Revival Story
