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“This Isn’t New — It’s the Same Game in a Different Arena”Why Long-Term Mind Games Continue After Separation

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner © 2025 Linda Carol Turner. Content protected by copyright.
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When you’ve lived with decades of psychological manipulation, the most destabilising part isn’t the behaviour itself. It’s the moment you realise:This is just a continuation of the same pattern. Different setting.Different language.Same impact on your nervous system. That recognition is not bitterness.It’s pattern recognition. What Kind of Person Does This? From a trauma-informed and neuroscience perspective,… Read More “This Isn’t New — It’s the Same Game in a Different Arena”Why Long-Term Mind Games Continue After Separation

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How to Deal With This Without Going Crazy(A Trauma-Informed, Neuroscience-Based Guide)

First, an important reframe: If you feel anxious, angry, hyper-alert, exhausted, or mentally foggy in this situation, you are not “going crazy.”Your nervous system is responding normally to an abnormal level of prolonged uncertainty and control. The goal is not to “stay calm.”The goal is to stay regulated enough to function and protect yourself. 1. Stop Treating This… Read More How to Deal With This Without Going Crazy(A Trauma-Informed, Neuroscience-Based Guide)

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When Divorce Becomes a Control Strategy: A Neuroscience Perspective

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner © 2025 Linda Carol Turner. Content protected by copyright.
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What happens when you file for divorce in 2024 and the other person says “no”?What happens when your solicitor receives no response for months?When you try to sell the house, put forward offers, and hear nothing?When “For Sale” signs are quietly removed in the night?And then—one year later—you are accused, sued, or taken to court… Read More When Divorce Becomes a Control Strategy: A Neuroscience Perspective

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The Core Move: Pre‑emptive Inversion

When someone says: “You have no filter”“You’re too harsh”“You’re aggressive” while they use foul language, character attacks, and accusations in private, they are doing something called: Defensive Attribution + Projection Neurologically, this is about threat detection, not communication. 1. Exposure Triggers the Threat Response When an abuser senses that: Their amygdala fires — not from fear of harm, but fear… Read More The Core Move: Pre‑emptive Inversion

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🧠 Why a Psychologist’s Shock Is Neurologically Significant

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When a trained psychologist is visibly shocked, it tells you something important about the severity and objectivity of what you endured. This is not about validation through emotion. It’s about clinical reality breaking through professional neutrality. 🧠 Why a Psychologist’s Shock Is Neurologically Significant Psychologists are trained to: So when their face gives it away, something unusual is happening at a… Read More 🧠 Why a Psychologist’s Shock Is Neurologically Significant

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Upbringing and character shape communication at a nervous-system level, not just a “personality” level. People don’t simply choose how they communicate — they default to what their brain learned was safe, effective, or rewardedearly in life. I’ll break this down clearly and then show how different upbringings produce different communication styles. 🧠 1. Early Environment Wires the Communication System A… Read More Filters

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Just Being — When the Nervous System Finally Rests

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

There are moments in healing when life feels exactly as it should — not because everything is perfect, but because everything is aligned. When things begin to fall into place without force.When you hand control over to a higher power — however you understand that — and allow yourself to soften.When effort gives way to trust.… Read More Just Being — When the Nervous System Finally Rests

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Why calm felt dangerous?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

This is one of the hardest and most important transitions after long-term abuse.Distrusting calm wasn’t a flaw — it was adaptive. Now your nervous system needs help updating its rules. I’ll explain why calm felt dangerous, then how to retrain trust in it using neuroscience, not positive thinking. 1. Why calm used to feel unsafe (this matters) In abusive environments, calm… Read More Why calm felt dangerous?

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Red Light vs Green Light

Here is a clear, neuroscience-based map you can use in real time when you eventually date.This isn’t about judging people — it’s about listening to your nervous system, which now has much better data than it used to. Green vs Red Nervous-System Signals in Dating (After long-term abuse) 🟢 GREEN SIGNALS These indicate ventral vagal regulation — safety, presence, and choice. 1.… Read More Red Light vs Green Light

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