Alice Miller was one of the most outspoken voices on it. Let me expand on her ideas about poisonous pedagogy, then bring in the perspectives of other psychologists and child development experts on smacking, punishment, and manipulation. Alice Miller: Poisonous Pedagogy She argued that these experiences don’t just vanish—they shape the adult psyche, often leading to suppressed… Read More Smacking, punishment, and manipulation.
Stop dismissing her pain and calling it maturity. That’s not maturity — it’s manipulation. You weren’t being noble by shutting her down, you were just too afraid to face your own reflection. She wasn’t trying to attack you — she was trying to reach you. She was hoping you’d care enough to listen, not to… Read More She wasn’t trying to attack you — she was trying to reach you
You’re describing someone whose behavior is not just emotionally abusive — it is escalating, unpredictable, and targeted, which is a dangerous combination. When that begins to extend beyond you to your daughter and grandchildren, it shifts from relational dysfunction into potential threat territory. Red Flags That Indicate a Need for Private Protection: If someone has shown a pattern of escalating… Read More 🔥 When Behavior Escalates to Danger
In a divorce case, a citación de testigos (witness summons or subpoena) is a formal legal order that requires a person to appear in court and testify about matters related to the divorce proceedings. This is part of the evidentiary process in family court in Spain (or other civil jurisdictions), and it can play a crucial role in shaping the judge’s understanding… Read More 🔎 What Is a Citación de Testigos in a Divorce Case?
There was a time when “going out” meant: And let’s not forget: But guess what? Those days are GONE, darling. 💃 Welcome to the Era of Soft Lighting and Zero Sulking Now, when you go out: You know what that’s called? Normal. Glorious, giggly, spontaneous, unremarkable NORMAL. And we are here for it. 🎉 🚫… Read More 🥂 To Parties Without Drama and Dates Without Dread: A Toast to the Return of Normal!
Is He Emotionally Available or Just Good at Looking Like It? ✅ He listens when you talk—and not just to reply.Bonus points if he remembers the name of your cat, your boss, and the book you said changed your life. ✅ He can talk about feelings without having a nervous breakdown.If you say, “That hurt my feelings,”… Read More 🧠💘 Lighthearted Checklist:
Some words stick in your memory like a splinter in the soul. I remember being accused of having a dysfunctional family relationship — by his sister.The same sister who declared she’d never leave the UK because of her strong ties to family. The same one who knew full well that her brother was preventing me — emotionally, financially, and logistically — from… Read More “Oh, the Hypocrisy of It All”: When the Ones Who Restrict Your Family Ties Accuse You of Being the Dysfunctional One
Not all cruelty shouts.Some of it whispers.With smiles. With soft voices. With statements that sound like love, but feel like poison. This kind of cruelty is the hardest to name — because it doesn’t come with bruises or shouting matches. It comes dressed in concern, in “just trying to help,” or “doing what’s best for… Read More 🥀 Cruelty Disguised as Love: The Most Dangerous Betrayal of All
In the delicate fabric of family, few bonds are as powerful — or as sacred — as the connection between a mother and her son. It’s an emotional umbilical cord that never fully severs. When nurtured in love, respect, and healthy boundaries, this bond can become a source of lifelong strength for both. But when… Read More 💔 When a Partner Comes Between a Mother and Her Son: It Can Only End One Way — In Tears and Devastation
A Psychological Exploration of Why We Choose the Wrong Partner Someone once asked me:“Did you marry him because he had money?” My daughter practically fell over laughing. “He never had money. You were the one working hard. You earned everything. Unless he’s been secretly stashing it away all your married life!” Let’s get one thing… Read More “So If It Wasn’t for Money, or Looks, or Kindness — Why Did I Marry Him?”
