When an abuser has already strangled you before and is now trying to break your arm, the danger level is extreme. This is not just domestic violence—it is a life-threatening situation. Why This is So Dangerous Can You Ever Be Safe Around Them? 🚨 NO. Someone who has strangled and broken bones before will likely escalate further.🚨 The risk of fatal violence is… Read More Extremely high-risk
When an abuser has severe anger issues and is prescribed medication but refuses to take it, this adds another layer of danger to an already volatile situation. The fact that they choose not to take their medication means they are fully responsible for their escalating violence. This is not just “losing control”—it’s a conscious decision to let their anger and abusive tendencies… Read More Unpredictability & Constant Fear
This type of fear is terror-based compliance, a psychological state where the victim feels that any resistance or attempt to leave could result in their death. Strangulation, in particular, is one of the most dangerous forms of domestic violence—it’s not just an act of control but a warning that the abuser has the power to take… Read More Terror-based compliance
When an abuser resorts to strangulation and other forms of physical abuse, they instill a deep, primal fear in their victim—one that goes beyond the immediate threat of physical harm. This kind of violence is particularly terrifying because it signals the abuser’s willingness to take complete control over the victim’s life, even to the point… Read More Fear of Death (Terror & Survival Instinct)
Abusers do not simply harm their victims with physical or emotional abuse—they also work systematically to strip them of their support systems, leaving them vulnerable, isolated, and entirely under their control. One of the most insidious ways they do this is by targeting the people their victims love the most: family, friends, and anyone who… Read More The Tactics of an Abuser: Isolation, Control, and Destroying Support Systems
In Spain, as in many legal systems, each form of abuse and misconduct you’ve listed is taken very seriously. The Spanish legal system is particularly sensitive to cases involving domestic violence, coercion, and harassment, as these crimes can have long-lasting impacts on the victims. Here’s how the Spanish courts typically handle each issue: 1. Physical Abuse (Violencia Física)… Read More Legal System In Spain
If the victim inquires whether the abuser has gone through therapy in the context of fear that the restraining order might be lifted if they return to the house, this indicates a very important concern about safety, accountability, and the potential for the abuser to manipulate the legal system. Here are a few key points… Read More Therapy is Not a Guarantee of Change
Repeated violations of a restraining order, combined with an escalation of behavior, especially after an incident like strangulation, strongly signal danger to the court. Strangulation is a particularly alarming form of abuse because it is a known risk factor for future lethal violence in abusive relationships. When someone has already used strangulation as a method… Read More Dangerous situation
Breaking a restraining order multiple times sends a strong and concerning message to the court. A restraining order is a legal order intended to protect someone from harm or harassment, and violating it undermines the purpose of the legal protection. If someone repeatedly breaks a restraining order, it can indicate several things to the court:… Read More Escalating Behavior
When facing a domestic violence case—whether as a survivor seeking protection or as someone navigating the legal complexities of abuse claims—having a lawyer with specialized expertise in domestic violence can make all the difference. Domestic abuse cases are not just about legal technicalities; they involve deep psychological manipulation, coercive control, and emotional trauma. A lawyer experienced in… Read More Why Having an Expert Lawyer in Domestic Violence Cases Is Crucial
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 