Anxiety is a complex and multifaceted emotional experience that is a normal part of the human condition. It can manifest in various forms and degrees, ranging from occasional worry to more intense and persistent feelings of fear and apprehension. Given your interest in trauma therapy, neuroscience, and emotional intelligence, exploring anxiety from these perspectives can provide a comprehensive understanding.
Abuse doesn’t just hurt the person on the receiving end. Over many years, without therapy or accountability, abusive behaviour also changes the abuser’s brain and emotional functioning in ways that make real change harder. This isn’t an excuse — it’s science on how the nervous system adapts to chronic patterns. 1. The Brain Learns Control as a… Read More What Long-Term Abuse Does to the Brain — When There’s No Therapy
Ever wonder why some people just feel trustworthy? Science shows that it’s not only about gut instinct or social cues — your brain is actively building internal maps of honesty and trustworthiness. A 2019 study by Bellucci and colleagues used brain scans (fMRI) to explore this. Here’s what they found — in plain language. The Brain… Read More How Our Brains Decide Who to Trust
It depends on intent, behaviour, and pattern, but persistent watching of children is a major red flag and can fall under criminal behaviour, even before physical contact. When “watching” becomes a concern It is not normal for an adult to: When this happens, it is often classified as predatory surveillance. Possible legal classifications (vary by country) Depending on behaviour and evidence, authorities may classify… Read More Stalking or watching young children — what is it?
(Brain → behaviour → relationship experience) 🟢 SECURE COMPANIONSHIP BRAIN “Connection is safe and mutual.” 🧠 Brain wiring ⬇️ 🧍 Behaviour in early interactions ⬇️ 🔗 Companionship pattern ⬇️ 🧠 Nervous-system effect on you 🔴 AVOIDANT COMPANIONSHIP BRAIN “Connection is useful but dangerous.” 🧠 Brain wiring ⬇️ 🧍 Behaviour in early interactions ⬇️ 🔗 Companionship… Read More 🧠 SECURE vs AVOIDANT COMPANIONSHIP BRAINS
Passing the information to your psychologist and discussing it is generally a very safe and effective choice, from both psychology and neuroscience perspectives, because it allows you to process the material without carrying it alone, and it protects your nervous system. Here’s the reasoning: 1. Psychologists are trained containers for trauma 2. Processing without absorbing responsibility 3.… Read More Practical and safe approach
1. The Stress Response and Uncertainty Result: You feel anxious, obsessed, and caught in a loop — waiting for approval or contact. 2. Mirror Neurons and Emotional Empathy 3. The Reward System and Intermittent Reinforcement 4. Prefrontal Cortex vs. Emotional Hijacking 5. Cognitive Patterns That Maintain the Loop These cognitive patterns strengthen neural circuits tied to attachment… Read More Why Chasing Non-Responsive Partners is Unhealthy: A Neuroscience Perspective
This pattern of behaviour — demanding entitlement to an asset and then the asset being vandalised soon after — aligns with psychological traits commonly observed in coercive control, retaliatory aggression, and entitlement-based conflict. Individuals who engage in this pattern typically show high sensitivity to perceived loss, rejection, or humiliation, which triggers a disproportionate emotional reaction. When they… Read More Psychological Profile of This Behaviour (Property Damage After Disputes)
This is not logical behaviour; it is control-based behaviour.Removing “For Sale” signs while accusing you of blocking the sale is a classic pattern seen in coercive control, pathological insecurity, and individuals who cannot tolerate loss of power. Below is what this behaviour typically means. 1. Cognitive Dissonance (“Two Opposite Beliefs at Once”) The brain cannot reconcile the… Read More Why They Complain About You “Not Selling the House” While They Keep Removing the For-Sale Signs — Neuroscience + Abuse Dynamics
(Score each item 0–3 and total your score at the end) Scoring guide:0 = Never1 = Sometimes2 = Often3 = Almost always SECTION 1 — EMOTIONAL OPENNESS & BONDING These items reflect how fast and easily you emotionally connect. SECTION 2 — BOUNDARIES & SCEPTICISM These items reveal how well you protect yourself socially and… Read More Self-Assessment Tool: “Am I Too Trusting?”
Negative self‑talk, catastrophising, or repeatedly saying “I’m dying / I’m sick / something terrible will happen” does NOT cause cancer, disability, or physical disease. That is not how biology works. However… What is true — and strongly supported by neuroscience — is that repeatedly telling yourself catastrophic health stories can: So let’s separate science from fear very clearly. ✅ What Repeated Catastrophic Self-Talk Does 1. Rewires your… Read More Psychological entrapment
