Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
Mediation has NO place between a victim and an abuser. Mediation is meant for disputes where both parties have equal power, but in abusive situations, the abuser already holds control, fear, and intimidation over the victim. It is NOT a fair or safe process. Why Mediation is Dangerous in Abuse Cases What Should Happen Instead? 🚫 No direct mediation between… Read More Mediation has NO place between a victim and an abuser.
When multiple professionals—two psychologists and two doctors in two different countries—are all telling you to leave, that is a clear and urgent sign that your safety is at serious risk. They are seeing the situation from an objective, clinical perspective, and they know that staying could have devastating consequences. Why Their Advice Matters It’s Time to… Read More You Are at High Risk of Further Violence
When the abuser’s family excuses their violence by saying, “It’s okay if he takes his medication, but sometimes he chooses not to,” they are enabling the abuse and minimizing the danger. This kind of response is not just harmful—it is outright dangerous. Why This is a Huge Red Flag What Does This Mean for You? 🚨 You cannot rely on them for… Read More Can You Ever Be Safe in This Situation?
When an abuser has already strangled you before and is now trying to break your arm, the danger level is extreme. This is not just domestic violence—it is a life-threatening situation. Why This is So Dangerous Can You Ever Be Safe Around Them? 🚨 NO. Someone who has strangled and broken bones before will likely escalate further.🚨 The risk of fatal violence is… Read More Extremely high-risk
Seeing pleasure, enjoyment, or stimulation in an abuser’s eyes while they commit acts of cruelty or violence is one of the most terrifying and chilling experiences a victim can endure. This isn’t just about anger or loss of control—it signals sadistic tendencies, where the abuser derives satisfaction from causing pain, fear, and helplessness. What Does This Mean? Can They… Read More Higher Risk of Severe Harm or Death
This type of fear is terror-based compliance, a psychological state where the victim feels that any resistance or attempt to leave could result in their death. Strangulation, in particular, is one of the most dangerous forms of domestic violence—it’s not just an act of control but a warning that the abuser has the power to take… Read More Terror-based compliance
When an abuser resorts to strangulation and other forms of physical abuse, they instill a deep, primal fear in their victim—one that goes beyond the immediate threat of physical harm. This kind of violence is particularly terrifying because it signals the abuser’s willingness to take complete control over the victim’s life, even to the point… Read More Fear of Death (Terror & Survival Instinct)
Abusers do not simply harm their victims with physical or emotional abuse—they also work systematically to strip them of their support systems, leaving them vulnerable, isolated, and entirely under their control. One of the most insidious ways they do this is by targeting the people their victims love the most: family, friends, and anyone who… Read More The Tactics of an Abuser: Isolation, Control, and Destroying Support Systems
Abusers thrive on control. They cannot bear to see their victims happy, independent, or fulfilled because it threatens their grip on power. One of the most insidious ways they maintain control is by systematically destroying anything that brings their victim joy—birthdays, Christmas, holidays, special occasions, and even lifelong dreams. My move to Spain, something I… Read More The Destruction of Joy: How Abusers Sabotage Happiness
Love is not a convenience. It does not turn on and off to suit the needs of those who only see relationships as transactional. When an abuser is in denial and has spread lies to friends and relatives, there is no going back. The damage is done, and the trust that forms the foundation of… Read More When the Abuser is in Denial: Love is Not a Switch
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 