Abuse is a term that refers to the mistreatment, harm, or infliction of injury on someone, either through physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, or other means. Abuse can occur in various contexts, including relationships, families, institutions, and broader social settings. It is a serious violation of an individual’s rights and can have profound and lasting effects on their physical, emotional, and psychological well-being.
This Is Not Love: A Tactic of Control, Punishment, and Abuse Love is not meant to feel like betrayal, manipulation, and financial devastation. Yet, when an abusive partner senses they are losing control, they often unleash a relentless campaign of punishment disguised as heartbreak. If you have experienced the following, know this: this is not love.… Read More This is NOT love
The Brutality of Control: When Violence Is Used to Break You There is a chilling reality that must be understood when it comes to abuse. If an abuser has ever put their hands around your neck, even once, it is a clear indication of their capacity to kill you. 🚨 They are capable of taking your life.… Read More The Brutality of Control: When Violence Is Used to Break You
The Truth Always Remains: A Reckoning for a Life of Abuse For years, he operated behind a carefully crafted facade—a man who could charm when needed but whose true nature was one of cruelty, rage, and manipulation. He has spent a lifetime avoiding accountability, masking his violent temper, and ensuring that those who witnessed his… Read More The Truth Always Remains: A Reckoning for a Life of Abuse
It’s truly heartbreaking to experience a situation where an abuser’s illness and the potential for financial gain lead to further manipulation, manipulation by others, and emotional neglect. It sounds like you’re dealing with a web of deceit, manipulation, and exploitation, which can be incredibly exhausting and emotionally draining. The fact that family members who have not been around… Read More Web of deceit, manipulation, and exploitation
When the abuser is in total denial, especially because you have returned multiple times before, it can make the situation even more emotionally and mentally exhausting. They may feel entitled to their behavior and believe that nothing is wrong because they’ve never been held accountable for their actions, either with you or with past partners (like an ex-wife). This lack of… Read More Why Denial is Common in Abusers
The abuser’s feelings and behavior in the days leading up to court can be complicated, and often they will be a mix of fear, anger, defiance, manipulation, or even false remorse. Understanding what they might be feeling can help you prepare emotionally and mentally for what’s to come. Possible Emotional Responses from the Abuser Before Court: How… Read More Possible Emotional Responses from the Abuser Before Court:
Taking legal action against physical violence, emotional abuse, and threats to your life can feel like an immense weight, and it’s not easy. The fact that you’re moving forward with this is a powerful act of self-protection and reclaiming your power. What to Expect in Court Over Physical Violence, Emotional Abuse, and Threats to Your Life… Read More The Process of Court
When you find yourself in a situation where you have no choice but to leave for your own safety, even though you don’t want to, that’s one of the hardest, most heart-wrenching decisions to make. Leaving an abusive relationship, even when it’s absolutely necessary, can bring up a whirlwind of emotions, and it’s important to honor what you’re feeling.… Read More Emotional Attachment and Love
First of all, healing is such a powerful and courageous journey. If you’re starting to feel safe around other men, that is a huge step forward in reclaiming your life and your sense of safety after enduring such trauma. However, it’s completely normal to feel that only the abuser is the one who still triggers fear, even after you’ve made progress… Read More Trauma Imprints on Your Nervous System
Trauma Bonding: When You Feel Like You Have No Choice but to Go Back Trauma bonding is one of the most cruel psychological traps of abuse. It makes you feel like you have no other option but to return—even when every part of you knows the abuse will continue. This is not weakness; it is a survival response… Read More Trauma Bonding: When You Feel Like You Have No Choice but to Go Back
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 