Category: Recovery

Giving yourself time — and finding the right therapy — changes everything.

When you’ve spent decades being told you’re guessing, overthinking, getting it wrong, or imagining things, you eventually stop trusting your own judgement. Not because it’s flawed — but because you’ve been trained to doubt it. You start second-guessing your instincts.You question your memory.You wonder if you are the problem. Then you begin the right kind of therapy.… Read More Giving yourself time — and finding the right therapy — changes everything.

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Playlist for Confidence

Here you go — four brand-new, tailored playlists for your confidence, healing, sensuality, and emotional reset.Each one is crafted with nervous-system regulation, empowerment, and your current chapter in mind. ✨ 1. Playlist for Confidence Walk-like-you-own-the-street energy. Shoulders back. Head high. Zero fear. Perfect for:✔ reclaiming power✔ walking into a room like you own it✔ post-trauma strength building… Read More Playlist for Confidence

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Personalised Healing Playlist

Here you go — four curated playlists, each designed with nervous-system regulation, emotional healing, vagus-nerve soothing, and your current life chapter in mind. I’m giving 10 songs per playlist, a mix of calming vocals, grounding rhythms, and emotionally regulating frequencies. 🎵 1. Personalised Healing Playlist Warm, soft, emotional, helps the body unclench and trust again. Good for:✦… Read More Personalised Healing Playlist

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**🎵 Music, Healing & the Vagus Nerve:

Why Certain Songs Make Your Body Exhale** 🧠 What Is the Vagus Nerve? It’s the longest calming nerve in your body — the “rest and restore” superhighway connecting: When it fires, your whole system shifts from: 🔥 fight/flightto🌿 calm safety mode This is why healing the vagus nerve transforms anxiety, trauma, and emotional sensitivity. And guess what… Read More **🎵 Music, Healing & the Vagus Nerve:

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1. Love songs aren’t scary.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

People send memes, songs, quotes, and cute things when they’re feeling warm, connected, or hopeful.A love song isn’t a marriage proposal.It’s emotional flavour — not a legal contract. 🧠 2. What feels intense to you might feel normal to someone emotionally healthy After surviving abuse, your brain becomes hypervigilant about doing “too much.”You over-scan for rejection, silence,… Read More 1. Love songs aren’t scary.

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Reframing

Identify the Negative Thought: Write down the negative thought as soon as you notice it. Be honest with yourself about what you’re thinking, even if it feels uncomfortable.

Example: “I’ll never be able to stay sober; I’m too weak.”

Challenge the Thought: Ask yourself if this thought is entirely true. Often, our negative thoughts are exaggerated or distorted. Consider the evidence that both supports and contradicts the thought.

Questions to consider: “Is this thought based on facts or feelings?” “Have I had successes in the past?”

Write a Positive or Neutral Counter-Statement: Replace the negative thought with a statement that is more supportive, encouraging, and realistic.

Positive counter-statement: “I’ve faced difficult challenges before and come out stronger. Every day I stay sober is a step toward a healthier life.”

Repeat as Needed: Make this a daily habit. Keep a journal where you can regularly challenge and reframe negative thoughts. Over time, you’ll start to notice patterns in your thinking and will be able to counteract them more naturally.… Read More Reframing

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Helping Yourself

Recovery is a journey that requires patience, persistence, and a lot of self-compassion. It’s about progress, not perfection, and understanding that setbacks can happen. What’s important is to keep moving forward, even if it’s one small step at a time. By integrating these self-help strategies into your daily life, you empower yourself to take control of your healing and create a new life that feels more fulfilling and authentic.… Read More Helping Yourself

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Stay True to Yourself

Communicate Clearly: Be assertive in expressing your needs and limits. Use “I” statements to communicate your feelings and boundaries without blaming others (e.g., “I need time to focus on my work”).

Learn to Say No: Saying no is a powerful skill. It’s important to decline requests that do not align with your goals or that drain your energy. Remember, you don’t need to justify every no.

Protect Your Time: Schedule time for yourself and your priorities. Treat these commitments as seriously as you would a meeting with someone else.… Read More Stay True to Yourself

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