Seeing
Some sights carve themselves into the soul.You cannot unsee,you cannot forget —only carry them forward.
Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist
Life
It’s been a year of revelations.Some painful. Some clarifying.Life does that.The only real response is to heal —and then continue forward,lighter, clearer, and stronger.
Focus on Healing
If you receive information or concerns that are distressing or unsettling, it is appropriate to pause and prioritise your own wellbeing. Discuss the situation with your psychologist or mental health professional, particularly if it triggers fear, stress, or past trauma. Their role is to support emotional regulation, clarity, and recovery — not to investigate or… Read More Focus on Healing
You are usually not in danger for reporting — especially if you do it correctly
When you report concerns, not accusations, and you do it through the proper channels, you are generally protected. Why reporting is safer than staying silent What actually protects you when reporting You stay safe when you: ✔ Stick to facts, dates, behaviours✔ Avoid speculation, diagnosis, or labels✔ Do not confront the person✔ Do not investigate on your own✔ Report once, then disengage✔ Keep copies… Read More You are usually not in danger for reporting — especially if you do it correctly
Safe Reporting Plan: Adult Behaviour
Step 1: Receive the report Step 2: Assess immediate danger Step 3: Document facts Step 4: Decide on anonymity Step 5: Submit to authorities Step 6: Maintain confidentiality Step 7: Follow-up Step 8: Personal safety measures Key principle:Your role is receiver, recorder, and reporter, not investigator. Reporting safely through authorities protects both children and yourself.
Decision Flow: Responding to Reports About Suspicious Behaviour Around Minors
Receiver, recorder, and reporter
Here’s guidance on when not to get directly involved if you receive a report or notice concerning someone stalking or watching young children: 1. Do not confront the person 2. Do not investigate on your own 3. Avoid discussing with others unnecessarily 4. Do not assume intent 5. Do not try to intervene with children 6. When… Read More Receiver, recorder, and reporter
Receiver and recorder, not investigator
If someone who knows your ex well sends you a letter describing concerns about your ex’s behaviour, here’s how to handle it safely and appropriately: 1. Treat it as information, not evidence 2. Read and document carefully 3. Do not share the letter publicly 4. Assess immediate risk 5. Prepare a neutral, factual report Important: Avoid adding opinions, assumptions,… Read More Receiver and recorder, not investigator
Stalking or watching young children — what is it?
It depends on intent, behaviour, and pattern, but persistent watching of children is a major red flag and can fall under criminal behaviour, even before physical contact. When “watching” becomes a concern It is not normal for an adult to: When this happens, it is often classified as predatory surveillance. Possible legal classifications (vary by country) Depending on behaviour and evidence, authorities may classify… Read More Stalking or watching young children — what is it?
Grooming of minors
What it is:A deliberate process where an adult (or older youth) builds trust with a child to prepare them for sexual exploitation. How it happens: Key legal point:👉 Grooming itself is a crime, even before any sexual images, contact, or abuse occur. Intent matters, not whether the child “agreed” or understood. Sextortion of minors What it is:Using sexual images, videos, or messages… Read More Grooming of minors
