(Common Examples to Recognise Early) 1. Emotional Support Without Emotional Investment They use you as: But avoid: 👉 You give emotional labour. They give minimal effort. 2. Financial Exploitation They: While contributing little themselves. 👉 If you’re always paying, that’s not dating — it’s sponsorship. 3. Time & Attention Drain They expect: But don’t reciprocate. 👉 Your life… Read More How People Take Advantage of Others in Dating
🇬🇧 British Manners Core values: Politeness, restraint, emotional moderation, social harmony. Politeness style:✨ Gentle, subtle, indirect Risk:Things can be left unsaid, leading to misunderstanding. 🇩🇪 German Manners Core values: Clarity, honesty, structure, respect through precision. Politeness style:🎯 Clear, direct, no embellishment Risk:Can feel blunt or emotionally distant to others. 🇫🇷 French Manners Core values: Elegance, intellectual engagement, social codes,… Read More European Manners & Dating Culture — A Comparison
Why this exists “This isn’t about judging anyone or protecting myself from imagined danger.It’s about staying connected to me while letting someone show me who they are.” I don’t rush.I don’t scan.I notice patterns — calmly. 🌅 After spending time together, I pause and ask Without analysing or explaining: (Only the pattern over time matters.)… Read More Early-Dating Personal Compass
Pause. Breathe. Answer honestly. No explanations required. 🧠 Nervous System Check If calm feels “boring” or unsettling, that may be trauma, not incompatibility. ❤️ Attachment Check Healthy attraction grows; trauma attachment accelerates. 🧱 Boundary Check If a boundary feels like rejection, pause — that’s old wiring speaking. 🪞Self-Respect Check Connection should expand you, not eclipse… Read More Dating While Healing — Self-Check
Thanks to AI, you can now be anything you like:Pilot ✈️Brain surgeon 🧠Rocket scientist 🚀Model 📸Yachtsman ⛵️ Strangely, no one ever seems to be“middle-aged, mildly tired, emotionally honest, and owns a sensible car.” Everyone’s single, wildly successful, spiritually evolvedand permanently somewhere near Monaco. Are there any real people left… or did they all log off for peace… Read More Facebook. Tinder. Hinge. Dating apps.
Dating apps aren’t inherently bad — but they are highly efficient environments for deception. They allow people to present a carefully curated version of themselves with very little accountability, history, or social consequence. And that creates opportunity — not just for romance, but for manipulation. Who Thrives on Dating Apps (and Why) Dating apps are especially attractive… Read More The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps: Con Men, Pretenders, and Emotional Fraud
This is one of the most important questions in recovery — and neuroscience gives a clear, compassionate answer that is very different from cultural pressure to “move on”. I’ll speak directly to you, not in generic advice. The short answer (grounded in neuroscience) After decades of abuse, the nervous system needs time to re-baseline before it can choose safely. Not… Read More How long before dating gain?
Because Moses didn’t prepare us for modern relationships, so someone had to. 1. Thou shalt not date a man who is “sleeping on his friend’s sofa” This is not independence.This is emotional camping. A truly separated man has his own space — no matter how humble.Even a tiny flat with one fork counts. 2. Thou shalt beware… Read More The 10 Commandments of Dating a Separated Man
1. The Landscape: Who’s Using Dating Apps & Why 2. Financial Motives: What the Data Shows What we don’t have: Reliable, large-scale data showing how many people specifically join dating apps with the primary goal of “money/securing a roof” or “targeting a rich widow(er)” or “taking advantage of a vulnerable divorcee”. Those specific motives tend to be under-researched, partly because they may… Read More 🎯 Title: “Money, Shelter & Vulnerability: What Motivates People on Dating Apps?”
💬 The Swipe That Changed Everything Dating apps were meant to simplify love — turning chance encounters into curated matches.And in many ways, they work: people meet, connect, even marry through them.But the same tools that help us find love can also amplify illusion — the carefully filtered self, the dopamine-fueled thrill, and, at times, the emotional… Read More ❤️🔥 Love in the Age of Algorithms: The Neuroscience of Dating Apps, Honesty, and Deception
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 