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Why Do Some Men Talk for Months on Dating Apps — But Never Make a Move?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment

If you’ve experienced long conversations on dating apps that go nowhere, you are not alone — and importantly, it’s rarely about your worth or desirability. More often, it reflects emotional availability, attachment patterns, and fear-based behaviour. Here are the real reasons this happens: 🧠 1. Emotional Connection Without Emotional Risk Many men enjoy emotional closeness, validation,… Read More Why Do Some Men Talk for Months on Dating Apps — But Never Make a Move?

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Dating Safely After Emotional Abuse

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

1. Heal Before You Attach Not because you’re broken — but because trauma distorts perception, attachment, and intuition. Healing helps you: You don’t attract healthier partners — you recognise them. 2. Go Slow (This Is Non-Negotiable) Healthy connection develops gradually. 🚩 Red flag: 🌿 Green flag: Fast intensity = emotional danger after trauma. 3. Observe Behavior, Not Words… Read More Dating Safely After Emotional Abuse

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Dating & Relationship Safety Guide

How to spot genuine connection vs hidden danger 🚦 PHASE 1: FIRST IMPRESSIONS — The Nervous System Test Before logic, attraction, or emotion: 👉 Scan your body. Body Signal Meaning Calm, grounded, relaxed Safe Tension, tight chest, uneasy Caution Confusion, dizziness, fog Manipulation Urgency, intensity, pressure High-risk 🧠 Your nervous system detects character before your brain does.… Read More Dating & Relationship Safety Guide

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A Trauma-Informed Guide to Dating Again After Loss, Divorce, or Long-Term Relationships

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Dating in midlife is not the same as dating when you were younger. Your nervous system now carries: This means your body seeks safety before excitement — even if your mind wants connection. From a neuroscience and psychological perspective, this is not hesitation.It is emotional intelligence. 1. The Midlife Nervous System: Why Dating Feels Different Now After… Read More A Trauma-Informed Guide to Dating Again After Loss, Divorce, or Long-Term Relationships

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Early-Dating Personal Compass

Why this exists “This isn’t about judging anyone or protecting myself from imagined danger.It’s about staying connected to me while letting someone show me who they are.” I don’t rush.I don’t scan.I notice patterns — calmly. 🌅 After spending time together, I pause and ask Without analysing or explaining: (Only the pattern over time matters.)… Read More Early-Dating Personal Compass

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The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps: Con Men, Pretenders, and Emotional Fraud

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Dating apps aren’t inherently bad — but they are highly efficient environments for deception. They allow people to present a carefully curated version of themselves with very little accountability, history, or social consequence. And that creates opportunity — not just for romance, but for manipulation. Who Thrives on Dating Apps (and Why) Dating apps are especially attractive… Read More The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps: Con Men, Pretenders, and Emotional Fraud

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The 10 Commandments of Dating a Separated Man

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Because Moses didn’t prepare us for modern relationships, so someone had to. 1. Thou shalt not date a man who is “sleeping on his friend’s sofa” This is not independence.This is emotional camping. A truly separated man has his own space — no matter how humble.Even a tiny flat with one fork counts. 2. Thou shalt beware… Read More The 10 Commandments of Dating a Separated Man

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🎯 Title: “Money, Shelter & Vulnerability: What Motivates People on Dating Apps?”

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

1. The Landscape: Who’s Using Dating Apps & Why 2. Financial Motives: What the Data Shows What we don’t have: Reliable, large-scale data showing how many people specifically join dating apps with the primary goal of “money/securing a roof” or “targeting a rich widow(er)” or “taking advantage of a vulnerable divorcee”. Those specific motives tend to be under-researched, partly because they may… Read More 🎯 Title: “Money, Shelter & Vulnerability: What Motivates People on Dating Apps?”

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