Category: CONDITIONS

When someone tells you they prefer to be on their own, listen.

From a trauma-informed perspective, this statement is often misunderstood. It is not always rejection.It is not necessarily avoidance.And it is rarely said lightly. When someone expresses a preference to be alone, it may reflect a nervous system that has learned that connection no longer feels safe, predictable, or reparative. Chronic emotional stress, invalidation, or unmet relational… Read More When someone tells you they prefer to be on their own, listen.

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It’s Time for the Truth: 32 Years, 15 Pages, and a Lifetime of Silence Broken

It’s Time for the Truth: 32 Years, 15 Pages, and a Lifetime of Silence Broken In five days, I will release something that has taken me over three decades to live through—and a lifetime’s worth of courage to write. Fifteen pages. Thirty-two years. The truth. This isn’t just a document. It’s not just words on… Read More It’s Time for the Truth: 32 Years, 15 Pages, and a Lifetime of Silence Broken

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Understanding Criminal Records for Domestic Violence in Spain

Domestic violence is treated with utmost seriousness in Spain. The legal system ensures that perpetrators are held accountable while also providing protection and support to victims. Here’s a comprehensive look at how Spain addresses domestic violence through its legal framework and the implications for those convicted. Legal Framework for Domestic Violence in Spain Key Legislation:… Read More Understanding Criminal Records for Domestic Violence in Spain

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Letting Go of the Need to Fix

Your life is valuable, and you deserve to spend it in peace, surrounded by people who respect, support, and care for you. You are not defined by the abuse you have endured or the efforts you made to change it. You are defined by your strength, your courage, and your worthiness of love and kindness.

Ultimately, it’s not your job to fix an abusive person or to make their behavior acceptable. It’s your job to take care of yourself, to choose your own well-being, and to create a life where you are treated with the respect and compassion you deserve.… Read More Letting Go of the Need to Fix

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Time

The concept of the “sunk cost fallacy” often plays a role in why people stay in long-term abusive relationships. This fallacy is the belief that because you’ve already invested so much time, effort, or resources, you should continue, even when it’s clear that staying causes more harm than good. But remember, the time you’ve already spent in the relationship is gone. The most important thing is the time you have left—and how you want to spend it.… Read More Time

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Avoiding Border Control and Authorities

One of the most striking behaviors of people involved in illegal activities is how secretive they are about their past. They often lie or provide vague, contradictory stories about their family, friends, or upbringing. This is a deliberate strategy, designed to prevent anyone from tracing their real history or discovering the truth about their identity. When pressed for details about their background, these individuals often become evasive, deflecting questions or providing false narratives that are difficult to verify.

Many of these individuals have left behind family or friends, sometimes due to scamming or betraying them. In some cases, they may have conned their own relatives out of money or destroyed personal relationships in their pursuit of wealth or power. For those who have burned bridges with their families, the past becomes a liability they must keep hidden. Lies about family or nonexistent relationships allow them to maintain the illusion that they are living a legitimate life when, in reality, they are running from the truth.… Read More Avoiding Border Control and Authorities

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Exploiting vulnerable individuals

Targeting Vulnerabilities: Exploiters often identify individuals who are isolated, struggling with mental health issues, or lacking strong support networks. They may present themselves as helpers or friends, gaining trust before manipulating and controlling their victims.

Grooming and Manipulation: They might begin with small favors or acts of kindness to build trust, only to later leverage this relationship to control the victim’s finances or coerce them into illegal activities.… Read More Exploiting vulnerable individuals

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