One of the reasons many survivors don’t speak out sooner is simple:they already know they won’t be supported. In some families, the abuse isn’t a secret.It has been seen before.Hints have been dropped.Incidents have been witnessed, minimised, or quietly explained away. Instead of intervening, the family: This silence isn’t neutral.It’s a choice. Why This Keeps… Read More When Families Know About Abuse
One of the reasons many survivors don’t speak out sooner is simple:they already know they won’t be supported. In some families, the abuse isn’t a secret.It has been seen before.Hints have been dropped.Incidents have been witnessed, minimised, or quietly explained away. Instead of intervening, the family: This silence isn’t neutral.It’s a choice. Why This Keeps… Read More When Families Know About Abuse — and Choose Silence
Many survivors ask themselves this question:Why did it take so long to speak out about what happened? The answer isn’t weakness.It’s neuroscience. 1. The Brain Prioritises Safety First When a person is in harm’s way — physically or emotionally — the brain shifts into survival mode.This is not a choice. It’s biology. In threat states:… Read More Why It Took So Long to Speak Out. A Trauma‑Informed Neuroscience Perspective
When the very worst abuse happened — the strangulation — I left for the UK.He flew over to beg me back and promised to get help. I wanted it to work. I had invested decades into an abusive marriage. I had made myself small. I put on a brave face. I kept it all inside.… Read More Speaking the Unspeakable and Beginning to Heal
This isn’t new behaviour.It’s the same pattern that’s been happening for decades — just playing out in a different way. When someone ignores divorce proceedings, doesn’t respond to solicitors, blocks the sale of a house, removes signs, and then later blames or sues you for delays — that isn’t confusion or bad communication. It’s control.… Read More In Simple Terms: What’s Actually Going On
What happens when you file for divorce in 2024 and the other person says “no”?What happens when your solicitor receives no response for months?When you try to sell the house, put forward offers, and hear nothing?When “For Sale” signs are quietly removed in the night?And then—one year later—you are accused, sued, or taken to court… Read More When Divorce Becomes a Control Strategy: A Neuroscience Perspective
START│▼Step 1: Initial Observation Step 2: Red Flag Assessment Step 3: Emotional Impact Check Step 4: Support Network Consultation Step 7: Exit Planning Notes for Use
Avoiding or protecting yourself from individuals with dark-triad traits (Machiavellianism, psychopathy, narcissism) or related traits like sadism involves a combination of psychological awareness, boundary-setting, and behavioral strategies. Here’s a thorough, neuroscience-informed guide: 1. Recognize Early Red Flags Behavioral Indicators Psychological Indicators Tip: Keep a mental or written note of repeated patterns rather than dismissing them as one-off incidents. 2.… Read More Behavioral Indicators
This is the other half of the equation, and it’s backed by research. 1. They Target Those Who Are Empathically Generous From a Machiavellian/sadistic/psychopathic perspective, the ideal partner is someone who: This makes the empathetic partner: ➡️ easier to control➡️ easier to manipulate➡️ less likely to leave immediately This is not a weakness — it’s a strength exploited. 2.… Read More Why Dark-Trait Individuals Seek Out Empathic, Strong, Caring People
When Even the Jewellery Had More Integrity Than the Man** You know what’s wild?You spend years thinking,“Why are his kids so ungrateful? Why do they roll their eyes when he brings gifts? Why do they whisper, ‘Linda… that’s fake’ while you’re busy defending him like a loyal barrister for the House of Delusion?” Well.Now we know.They weren’t… Read More **🎭 The Fake Gift Chronicles:
