It’s one of the most painful and unfair parts of healing—the victim is left to pick up the pieces, process the trauma, and rebuild, while the abuser seemingly moves on effortlessly, finding a new “supply” as if nothing happened. But here’s the thing: they don’t actually move on. They just repeat the same cycle with someone new.… Read More Moving on
Healing from abuse isn’t a quick process—it takes years, and that’s completely normal. You’re undoing patterns that were ingrained in you, processing trauma, and rebuilding trust in yourself and others. That kind of deep healing can’t be rushed. But look at how far you’ve already come. You’ve gained awareness, taken your power back, surrounded yourself… Read More It Takes Years
It sounds like today’s session was intense but also eye-opening. Recognizing abusive behaviors—especially the ones that were subtle or normalized—can be overwhelming, but it also gives you clarity and validation. Here’s a comprehensive list of different types of abuse that people often don’t realize are abusive until they step back and examine them: 1. Physical Abuse 2.… Read More Recognizing Abuse is the First Step Toward Healing
It makes total sense that some things you were unsure about are now becoming clearer as actual abuse. Abusers are experts at making their behavior seem “normal” or making you question your own feelings about it. That’s how they maintain control. But now, with the help of your psychologist, you’re putting the pieces together, and… Read More Making sure it never happens again
Physical abuse doesn’t require witnesses, photos, or external validation to be real. Just because no one saw it happen doesn’t mean it didn’t. Abusers often make sure there’s no evidence, and many survivors are too afraid or ashamed to document it. Your experience is valid, and you don’t need anyone else’s approval to know what… Read More Its real
A deep and powerful realization—grieving not just the end of a marriage, but the marriage that never truly was. It’s a different kind of loss. Not just mourning what’s gone, but mourning what should have been, what you deserved, and what you hoped for all those years. Grief like this is layered. There’s sadness, anger,… Read More Grieving
Grateful for my daughter being at my side for the past two weeks Grateful for my own families financial support at this difficult time Grateful I dont have to pretend anymore Grateful I can just be me now Grateful I can just let everything go after so many years Grateful I can still work at… Read More Gratitude Wednesday
It sounds like his own solicitor’s letters are essentially documenting his financial abuse for you—proof in black and white of his true intentions. No matter how much he plays the victim, the evidence speaks for itself. That must be incredibly frustrating, but at the same time, it’s also validating. He can’t gaslight his way out… Read More Evidence
Healing from emotional trauma and abuse is a deeply personal and often painful journey. When you begin to dissect what has happened to you over the years, it forces you to confront certain truths that may have been too painful to acknowledge before. These realizations are difficult but necessary steps toward reclaiming your life and… Read More Processing Emotional Trauma and Abuse: Confronting the Painful Truths
Experiencing so much stress that it leads to a mental breakdown can be one of the most overwhelming and frightening experiences. It often happens when prolonged emotional, psychological, or physical stress becomes unbearable, pushing the nervous system into shutdown mode—a survival response to extreme distress. What is a Mental Breakdown? A mental breakdown (also called a nervous breakdown) isn’t a… Read More Mental Breakdown
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 