Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda C J Turner - Your Journey to Emotional Wellness | Emotional Trauma Therapist | EMDR | CBT | NLP |

When You Confide in Others & Your Abuser Cuts You Off From Them

This is classic isolation and control. Your abuser knows that if you have support, you will gain the strength to leave—so they cut you off from anyone who might help you. 🔴 They FEAR exposure more than they care about you. Their priority isn’t fixing the relationship—it’s silencing you.🔴 They use fear, guilt, or manipulation to keep you away from others.🔴 They… Read More When You Confide in Others & Your Abuser Cuts You Off From Them

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Fear Replaces Love After Strangulation

Once an abuser has strangled you, the dynamic of the relationship permanently shifts—because you now know they are capable of killing you. This isn’t love. This is survival. 💔 You stop feeling safe and start walking on eggshells.💔 You question every word, every action, trying not to trigger another attack.💔 You may even convince yourself to stay—because leaving feels just as terrifying.… Read More Fear Replaces Love After Strangulation

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They Are Just as Dangerous

When an abuser’s own family shrugs off strangulation, covers it up, and even blames you, they are actively enabling the abuse and putting your life in further danger. Why Do Families Defend Abusers? The Smear Campaign: Trying to Silence You Once abusers (and their enablers) realize you are not staying silent, they often escalate to a full-blown smear campaign: 🚩 They Call… Read More They Are Just as Dangerous

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Walking Time Bomb

Yes, unless they are held accountable and undergo serious intervention, abusers who strangle will repeat this behavior—and it often escalates to even more extreme violence. Why Do They Escalate With Each New Partner? 🚩 They Test Boundaries & Learn What They Can Get Away With 🚩 Each Relationship Becomes More Extreme 🚩 Strangulation is Often a Step Toward Homicide 🚩 Abusers… Read More Walking Time Bomb

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What Happens to Intimacy and Closeness After Strangulation?

You cannot truly move on in a relationship after strangulation—because the dynamic has already shifted into one of power, control, and terror. Strangulation is not a loss of temper or a moment of passion gone wrong. It is a premeditated display of control over life and death. The fact that they didn’t kill you this time does not mean they won’t next time. Many… Read More What Happens to Intimacy and Closeness After Strangulation?

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 Increase their power—so they can escalate abuse with no consequences

If you are in an isolated area in a foreign country, unable to speak the language, and your abuser has taken away your passport, car keys, and access to money, then you are in an extremely high-risk situation. This is not just domestic violence—this is coercive control and entrapment. It is a dangerous hostage-like scenario where they are… Read More  Increase their power—so they can escalate abuse with no consequences

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What Happens After Strangulation If It’s Brushed Off

Strangulation is one of the most serious and dangerous forms of domestic violence, and brushing it off as “but I didn’t kill you” is a terrifying minimization of an attempted murder. Strangulation is not just physical abuse—it is a major red flag that an abuser is willing to exert total control over a victim’s life… Read More What Happens After Strangulation If It’s Brushed Off

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Breaking a restraining order

Breaking a restraining order by being physically present where prohibited is a serious violation. Here’s how to handle and document such incidents effectively: Key Violations to Watch For: Steps to Take When This Happens: Every violation strengthens your case. Keep standing firm—you have every right to safety and peace of mind. 💪

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Violations

Every single violation of the restraining order should be meticulously documented and reported to: How to Document Violations Properly If violations continue, the court can take further legal action, including stricter penalties or additional protective measures. Stay strong—you are doing the right thing by holding them accountable.

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