The Key Question: Do They Change? The real test of empathy isn’t whether an abuser cries, apologizes, or says they feel bad—it’s whether they actually stop hurting people and take responsibility for their actions. A person who genuinely wants to change will do more than just say sorry. They will:✔️ Acknowledge the harm they’ve caused without blaming others.✔️ Take full responsibility instead of making… Read More The Key Question: Do They Change?
Abusers can have empathy, but whether they use it is another story. 1. Some Abusers Lack Empathy Entirely Some abusers—especially those with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder (ASPD), or psychopathic traits—lack true emotional empathy. They don’t feel guilt or remorse for hurting others because they don’t connect with others’ emotions in a meaningful way. Instead, they may show cognitive… Read More Do abusers have empathy?
Dealing with a partner who lacks empathy or compassion can be incredibly draining, frustrating, and even damaging to your well-being. It often feels like you’re in a one-sided relationship where your emotions, needs, and struggles are dismissed or even ridiculed. If you’re in this situation, here are some important steps to consider: 1. Recognize the… Read More Zero Empathy
Unless you have ever been face-to-face with an abuser in those terrifying moments—when you don’t know what’s coming next—you are not qualified to make a judgment. A quote from a relative: “Whatever label you put on someone, you can either live with their behavior, or you can’t.” this is the response I got when I told them what… Read More Don’t ever judge someone who has suffered abuse of any kind.
Gratitude Gratitude for new genuine people coming into my life Gratitude for feeling better and improving every day Gratitude for seeing the truth and cutting out toxic people Gratitude for viewings on the house Gratitude in advance and hoping for a quick sale Gratitude for relatives taking the time and trouble to come and see… Read More Gratitude
When it comes to interfering relatives, it’s a tale as old as time—family members (or those who claim to have good intentions) inserting themselves into situations where they either don’t belong or are actively causing harm. Whether it’s trying to manipulate someone’s inheritance, control narratives, or stir up drama, interference like this can be incredibly damaging.… Read More Interfering relatives
The register will show:
Whether the solicitor is allowed to practice.
Details about their current practice status (e.g., active, inactive).
Any restrictions or disciplinary actions taken against them.
If you are checking for barristers instead, you would use the Bar Standards Board’s Barristers’ Register.… Read More Solicitors Regulation Authority (SRA) website
It’s a classic case of people in glass houses—casting judgment while standing on shaky moral ground. When someone orchestrates a kangaroo court, assuming the role of judge, jury, and executioner, all while pretending to hold the moral high ground, it reeks of hypocrisy. Especially when this same person has actively encouraged their partner to break the law,… Read More People in glass houses
It sounds like a classic case of turning the abuser’s own tactics against them. The same isolation techniques that were once used to control and manipulate others are now being wielded against the abuser themselves. By cutting off contact with other family members, she ensures that she alone controls the narrative, leaving no room for… Read More The abuser being abused by family
I would have probably pulled out in the early stages had it not gone this far—if I hadn’t received threats and intimidation, and if someone hadn’t been constantly pushing for divorce. Taking it upon themselves to declare that “the marriage was irretrievable,” they asserted their own agenda, claiming that “he wants to sell the house… Read More The Impact of Threats and Intimidation in Divorce Decisions
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 