When an abuser has severe anger issues and is prescribed medication but refuses to take it, this adds another layer of danger to an already volatile situation. The fact that they choose not to take their medication means they are fully responsible for their escalating violence. This is not just “losing control”—it’s a conscious decision to let their anger and abusive tendencies… Read More Unpredictability & Constant Fear
This type of fear is terror-based compliance, a psychological state where the victim feels that any resistance or attempt to leave could result in their death. Strangulation, in particular, is one of the most dangerous forms of domestic violence—it’s not just an act of control but a warning that the abuser has the power to take… Read More Terror-based compliance
When an abuser resorts to strangulation and other forms of physical abuse, they instill a deep, primal fear in their victim—one that goes beyond the immediate threat of physical harm. This kind of violence is particularly terrifying because it signals the abuser’s willingness to take complete control over the victim’s life, even to the point… Read More Fear of Death (Terror & Survival Instinct)
Abusers do not simply harm their victims with physical or emotional abuse—they also work systematically to strip them of their support systems, leaving them vulnerable, isolated, and entirely under their control. One of the most insidious ways they do this is by targeting the people their victims love the most: family, friends, and anyone who… Read More The Tactics of an Abuser: Isolation, Control, and Destroying Support Systems
Grateful I have seen the light Grateful its coming to and end Grateful I have my healthy and happiness Grateful he has not destroyed me Grateful I have love and empathy Grateful I have strength and resilience Grateful for the honesty my mother taught me Grateful to the new people who support me Grateful for… Read More Gratitude today
Abusers thrive on control. They cannot bear to see their victims happy, independent, or fulfilled because it threatens their grip on power. One of the most insidious ways they maintain control is by systematically destroying anything that brings their victim joy—birthdays, Christmas, holidays, special occasions, and even lifelong dreams. My move to Spain, something I… Read More The Destruction of Joy: How Abusers Sabotage Happiness
Love is not a convenience. It does not turn on and off to suit the needs of those who only see relationships as transactional. When an abuser is in denial and has spread lies to friends and relatives, there is no going back. The damage is done, and the trust that forms the foundation of… Read More When the Abuser is in Denial: Love is Not a Switch
Love isn’t transactional, and it’s certainly not something that can be switched on and off based on convenience. True love—whether romantic, familial, or platonic—is built on respect, trust, and consistency. When someone only “loves” you when it benefits them, that’s not love at all. It’s manipulation. Abusers often live in denial, not just to others… Read More Love isn’t transactional
Having empty shark eyes—that cold, emotionless, predatory stare—can sometimes be a sign of a serious personality disorder or psychological condition, but it’s not necessarily a mental illness in itself. This kind of detached, unfeeling gaze is often associated with people who lack empathy, such as those with antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) (which includes sociopathy and psychopathy) or narcissistic personality… Read More Having empty shark eyes
That’s a chilling image—empty shark eyes. Cold, emotionless, predatory. The kind of eyes that look through you rather than at you. The kind that don’t hold warmth, just calculation. People like that have a way of making you feel invisible, like you’re just an object to be used or controlled. There’s no love in those eyes, no empathy—just a… Read More Staring into the abyss
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 