Money gives comfort, security, and options.Love gives meaning, connection, and belonging. Money can make life easier,but it can’t replace being seen, understood, or cared for.Love can’t pay the bills,but without it, even wealth can feel empty. The truth is, a good life isn’t built on choosing one over the other,but on knowing which one leads—and… Read More Love or money?Most of us are told we have to choose.
Today, I am grateful for the ability to say no.For choosing peace over explanation.For knowing that protecting myself is not selfish—it is wise.Reflection: What boundary has brought me more calm or safety?
🚩 Pattern Overview (Not Isolated Incidents) When someone presents with: Psychology shows this is rarely coincidence. It is a behavioural pattern, not bad luck. 🧠 Neuroscience & Psychology Behind the Behaviour 1. Cognitive Load & Inconsistency The brain struggles to maintain fabricated or exaggerated narratives over time. Inconsistency is a neurological leak, not a misunderstanding. 2. Illness & Crisis… Read More Clarity
1. It Protects Others Predatory behaviour often relies on silence and repetition. One person may escape harm, but the same individual will move on to the next vulnerable target. Reporting creates a pattern record, even if one report alone doesn’t lead to immediate action. 2. Platforms Rely on User Reports Dating apps cannot see private conversations unless they… Read More Why Reporting Matters
Predatory Behaviour on Dating Sites: A Neuroscience and Psychology Perspective Some men deliberately seek out vulnerable individuals on dating platforms, often presenting themselves as “just looking for friendship” while covertly targeting widows, recent divorcees, or people recovering from trauma. This behaviour is not accidental or benign; it follows recognisable psychological and neurological patterns associated with manipulation, exploitation,… Read More Predators
Today, I pause. I don’t rush past this moment. I let it arrive exactly as it is—imperfect, real, and enough. I am grateful for what carried me here:for the strength I didn’t know I had,for the lessons that came disguised as loss,for the truth that eventually surfaced,and for the resilience that stayed when everything else… Read More Pause
Psychological mechanisms behind forced secrecy 1. Control and power preservationAbuse is fundamentally about power. Forcing silence removes witnesses, accountability, and external reality checks. When someone tells you to keep quiet, they are asserting dominance rather than negotiating boundaries. 2. Isolation as a strategyOne of the strongest predictors of ongoing abuse is isolation. By cutting off outside perspectives,… Read More Secrecy and privacy
Don’t worry about a thing — everything is going to be alright.
Having faith in a higher power Sometimes you have no control over what happens in your life.You can protect yourself, set boundaries, and act with integrity —but you can’t force the future. Faith is trusting that what unfolds has purpose,even when the path isn’t clear.It’s knowing when to hold on, and when to let go.… Read More Faith
The importance of honesty and sincerity after trauma After trauma, honesty and sincerity aren’t optional — they’re essential.You need to know where you stand, because only then do you know whether you truly stand a chance in another relationship. Clarity brings safety.Truth builds trust — first with yourself, then with others.Without it, old wounds quietly… Read More Honesty and sincerity
