It’s funny what memories float up on a hot summer’s night in Spain.Tonight, sitting outside with my loyal companion Ellie — my beloved black Labrador — I found myself thinking about my trip to Perth, Australia. A trip that should have been joyful. A reunion with my daughter, her husband, and my grandson, whom I… Read More ✨“A Basic Human Right: When Visiting Family Is Treated Like a Crime”✨
It’s one of the most damaging myths survivors are told: “You just need to kiss and make up.”“All couples fight — you just have to let it go.”“Stop bringing up the past.” No. Let’s get one thing absolutely clear. An argument is a disagreement.Abuse is a pattern of power, control, and harm. ☑️ Arguments happen between… Read More Let’s Get One Thing Clear: A Fight is One Thing. Abuse is Something Else.
Many years ago, in what feels like another life, I worked in the corporate world — a very different setting to where I find myself today, supporting emotional recovery and healing as a therapist in southern France. Back then, one of my responsibilities in Human Resources was to process and facilitate Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality tests, specifically for senior managers and… Read More 💼 From Corporate HR to Trauma Therapy: What the Myers-Briggs Taught Me About People
💫 Core Traits of the ESFP Personality: 1. Extraverted (E):ESFPs thrive on connection. You gain energy from being around people, and you often feel most alive when you’re fully engaged with others — whether that’s hosting a dinner party, leading a spontaneous road trip, or being the heart of a celebration. You’re approachable, charming, and… Read More This was my job in HR in my old life – Myers Briggs Personality Types
(For the women who never thought they’d feel safe in love again) There’s something sacred about a man who doesn’t need to be told — he just knows. 🖤 He knows when silence is your way of saying, “I’m overwhelmed.”🖤 He knows when your smile is real… and when it’s bravely painted on.🖤 He knows when… Read More He Just Knows
Celebrate him. That’s not just luck — that’s the result of emotional maturity, deep respect, and genuine connection. That’s a man who is: ✨ Emotionally intelligent – He doesn’t guess how you feel; he listens, notices, and responds.✨ Attuned to your cues – He picks up on your body language, your energy, your tone, even the pauses in your… Read More If You’ve Ever Had a Partner Who Just Knew When It Was Right…
Because one heals you — and the other keeps you hooked. Let’s talk about it.Because for those of us who’ve been in toxic relationships, the lines can blur.We’ve been conditioned to associate intensity with love, chaos with chemistry, and adrenaline with intimacy.So when we finally experience something healthy — calm, grounded, mutual — it can feel… almost foreign. But the body knows… Read More 💔💗 The Difference Between Make-Up Sex and Trauma Bond Sex
We’ve all heard about “make-up sex” — that fiery, passionate reconnection that often follows a heated argument. For some couples, it can be incredibly bonding. For others, it can be confusing, or even retraumatizing. So when is it healthy — and when is it not? 🧠 From a neuroscience perspective: After conflict, our nervous systems are activated —… Read More 💬 Sex After a Disagreement: Healthy or Harmful?
Because real love doesn’t mean never fighting — it means knowing how to fight fair. Let’s be honest:Even the healthiest couples bicker about nonsense. We’ve all been there.The real difference between a lasting love and a doomed one? It’s not whether you fight.It’s how you fight.So let’s talk about the difference between repair… and ruin. 💥 RUIN Looks Like:… Read More 🧯Repair vs. Ruin: What Healthy Conflict Looks Like
Because connection isn’t built on performance — it’s built on presence. Let’s be real.Most of us have had enough of guessing games, mind-reading, emotional hide-and-seek, and breadcrumb affection.The older we get, the clearer it becomes:Games are for boys. Questions are for men. And real men? They aren’t afraid of the truth — they lean into it. 🧠… Read More 💬 “Real Men Don’t Play Games — They Ask Real Questions.”
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 