Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda C J Turner - Your Journey to Emotional Wellness | Emotional Trauma Therapist | EMDR | CBT | NLP |

“The Psychology of Projection: When the Real Controller Says ‘They’re Trying to Control You’”

You heard it over and over:“They’re trying to control you.”Your family. Your friends. Anyone who cared about you —he cast them all as the enemy. But in truth, it was never them.It was him. Psychologically, this is a classic tactic of projection — one of the most common defense mechanisms in controlling or narcissistic personalities.Projection happens when a person… Read More “The Psychology of Projection: When the Real Controller Says ‘They’re Trying to Control You’”

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“After Control: The Neuroscience of Finally Living as You Choose”

For years, you went everywhere alone.Weddings, dinners, birthdays, the Camino de Santiago —always the one who showed up, smiled, and stood alone.But he never came — not to celebrate, not to walk beside you.You attended masonic dinners, family events, special moments — mostly  without him. For three decades, the pattern never changed.The only things you… Read More “After Control: The Neuroscience of Finally Living as You Choose”

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“When They Never Come: The Psychology of Avoiding What You Love”

Moraira.Perth, Australia.Bournemouth.Puerto Banús.The places your daughter and grandchildren lived.The places filled with laughter, warmth, and belonging. And he never came.Not once. Not to visit. Not to share a meal, a beach, a moment.Always an excuse — too hot, too far, too boring, too Benidorm. It speaks volumes. Because in psychology, avoidance is rarely about disinterest — it’s… Read More “When They Never Come: The Psychology of Avoiding What You Love”

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“When the Abuser Moves to Your Dream: The Psychology Behind Suddenly Wanting Moraira”

There’s a certain kind of cruelty that isn’t loud — it’s symbolic.Ten years ago, Moraira was your dream: sunshine, family, peace.He never wanted to come. He criticized Spain — too hot, too tacky, too Benidorm.He dismissed your joy because it wasn’t his. But now, suddenly, it’s his place.He visits, settles, even claims it as though the dream was always… Read More “When the Abuser Moves to Your Dream: The Psychology Behind Suddenly Wanting Moraira”

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“The Girl on the Train: When Truth Sounds Too Unbelievable”

Have you ever felt like The Girl on the Train — gaslit by reality, watching your own story unfold from the outside, wondering if anyone will ever believe you? In Paula Hawkins’ novel — and the film that followed — Rachel’s truth was buried beneath disbelief. Her pain was rewritten by others, her memory questioned, her credibility… Read More “The Girl on the Train: When Truth Sounds Too Unbelievable”

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Article 183 bis of the Spanish Penal Code

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Article 183 bis of the Spanish Penal Code deals with the sexual exploitation of minors through digital or electronic means, commonly referred to as grooming. What it covers It criminalizes anyone who, using the internet, phone, or other communication technologies, contacts a minor under 16 years old with the intention of arranging a meeting to commit sexual offenses (as described in… Read More Article 183 bis of the Spanish Penal Code

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¿Qué conductas sanciona el artículo 183 bis?

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

El artículo 183 bis del Código Penal español tipifica conductas relacionadas con el “grooming” o acercamiento a menores con fines sexuales. Esta figura delictiva fue incorporada en 2010 y se encuentra en el Título VIII, Capítulo II, del Código Penal, que aborda los delitos contra la libertad sexual. ¿Qué conductas sanciona el artículo 183 bis?… Read More ¿Qué conductas sanciona el artículo 183 bis?

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Moral Equilibrium and the Brain: Regret, Empathy, and Compassion

Moral equilibrium is the inner drive to restore balance when someone feels that actions or decisions have violated their own or societal moral standards. It’s the part of us that says, “I wish I had acted differently.” Psychological Perspective From a psychological standpoint, people often experience moral regret when they recognize that an opportunity to act with empathy… Read More Moral Equilibrium and the Brain: Regret, Empathy, and Compassion

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When Compassion Is Withheld: The Psychology and Neuroscience of Truth and Accountability

When people act without compassion, dismiss your pain, or ignore the truth you’ve spoken, something powerful happens in both psychology and the brain: the natural human instinct for fairness and truth becomes activated. This isn’t revenge — it’s restoration. The Psychology of Reciprocity and Justice In social psychology, reciprocity is a fundamental principle. Humans are wired to… Read More When Compassion Is Withheld: The Psychology and Neuroscience of Truth and Accountability

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