There are many things people don’t see when someone is living inside an abusive relationship.

From the outside, life can appear normal. The house, the routine, the conversations with friends. But internally there is often a constant undercurrent of tension, control, and emotional exhaustion. Over time it slowly erodes confidence, clarity, and peace.

During that period of my life, Reiki became something very important to me.

Around ten years ago, while living in France, I trained to become a Reiki Master. At the time I did not fully understand how important that training would become. What began as a spiritual and healing practice gradually became a lifeline that helped me navigate one of the most difficult chapters of my life.

Reiki gave me something that abuse tries to take away: a sense of inner calm and personal power.

When you live in an environment where control, manipulation, or emotional pressure are present, the nervous system is often constantly on alert. The mind becomes tired and the body carries the stress. Reiki helped me reconnect with a quieter place within myself — a space where I could breathe, reflect, and regain perspective.

It reminded me that my identity did not belong to someone else.

It reminded me that my energy was still my own.

Practicing Reiki allowed me to slow down the chaos around me and reconnect with a sense of balance. Even small moments of stillness can be incredibly powerful when life feels overwhelming.

Over time, those moments of calm help rebuild something very important: self-trust.

Reiki did not magically change the situation around me. But it strengthened something within me. It gave me clarity, resilience, and the emotional grounding I needed to eventually move forward with my life.

Many people who have experienced abusive relationships describe feeling disconnected from themselves. Reiki helped me return to myself, step by step.

Today I look back at that time with gratitude for the strength I found and for the practice that supported me through it.

Reiki was not about escaping reality. It was about reconnecting with my own inner stability so I could face reality with strength and clarity.

And perhaps most importantly, it reminded me of something that abuse tries to make you forget:

Your peace, your energy, and your life are still yours.