- Receive a report or notice
- From a third party, first wife, or someone your ex knows
- Could be formal (letter/email) or informal (verbal)
- Assess immediate risk
- ☐ Are children in immediate danger?
- Yes: Contact police / child protection immediately
- No: Proceed to documentation
- ☐ Are children in immediate danger?
- Document facts
- Record: who reported, when, where, what was observed
- Include pattern or repetition if mentioned
- Do not add assumptions, opinions, or interpretations
- Decide on involvement
- Do not confront your ex
- Do not try to intervene directly with children
- Do not discuss publicly or with unrelated parties
- Report to authorities
- Police (stalking or suspicious behaviour)
- Child protection / Servicios Sociales
- School safeguarding officer (if relevant)
- Maintain confidentiality
- Share only with authorities or designated safeguarding staff
- Keep copies secure for follow-up
- Follow-up
- Authorities may request more information
- Continue to document only facts and updates from authorities
