This is not emotional shallowness — it’s neural efficiency.
🧠 The brain’s shortcut
Change requires:
- tolerating shame
- relinquishing reward
- rebuilding empathy circuits
- sustained discomfort
Replacement offers:
- instant regulation
- renewed dopamine
- restored control
- a clean narrative reset
🧠 The brain chooses:
“New supply is easier than neural rewiring.”
🔄 What replacement actually does
- Resets the cruelty loop to Stage 1
- Restores power imbalance
- Delays collapse of the reward system
➡️ The pattern continues — just with a different person.
This is why:
- they “move on” quickly
- appear unchanged
- repeat identical dynamics
