Phase 1: Safety & Nervous System Regulation
✨ Goal: Teach your body it’s safe again.
- Somatic therapy (Somatic Experiencing, breathwork, grounding)
- Gentle routines that restore predictability
- Creating distance from the liar’s influence (no-contact or limited contact if possible)
- Surrounding yourself with safe, steady people
👉 You are not “crazy.” Your body was trained to live on high alert. Healing begins with calming the storm.
Phase 2: Rebuilding Self-Trust
✨ Goal: Reclaim your inner compass.
- EMDR or trauma-focused CBT to reprocess gaslighting and betrayal
- Journaling “reality checks” → writing what you see/hear/feel to anchor truth
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) or Schema Therapy to heal fractured identity parts
- Practicing small daily choices → proving to yourself that you can trust your judgment
👉 Gaslighting attacked your memory and self-trust. Recovery is about slowly returning that power to yourself.
Phase 3: Creating a Truth-Based Life
✨ Goal: Build a future rooted in authenticity.
- Deep relationships built on honesty and emotional safety
- Group therapy or survivor communities → “me too” restores reality
- Creative expression (art, writing, movement) to give voice to your true story
- Self-compassion practices → because you deserve kindness after decades of deception
👉 This is where you stop surviving their lies — and start thriving in your truth.
🌸 Closing Reflection
Healing after chronic deceit isn’t just about recovering from their lies.
It’s about building a life where your truth is enough, your voice is steady, and your body knows peace again.
