🗓️ Mark the Date: The Day I Stopped Looking Back
The psychological release of finally knowing the truth—and choosing yourself.
There are moments in life that split everything into before and after. Today is one of those days.
Because today… I saw it all clearly.
The masks.
The lies.
The patterns.
The truth that sat quietly behind years of confusion finally stood up and said:
“Here I am.”
And with that, something inside me changed.
Not with rage. Not with chaos.
But with calm, grounded knowing.
So I’m marking this day.
🗓️ The day I said: No more.
No more wondering.
No more justifying.
No more trying to make sense of nonsense.
🧠 The Psychological Shift When Truth Finally Lands
For anyone who’s lived under the weight of manipulation, secrecy, or emotional abuse, this is how the mind protects you:
- It keeps searching.
- It tries to make it make sense.
- It loops in circles, hoping the story will change.
But once the truth becomes undeniable, the search ends.
And with that ending comes freedom.
Freedom to stop analyzing every word.
Freedom to trust your body again.
Freedom to walk away without guilt.
What happens next is a release in the nervous system—as if the body exhales after years of holding its breath.
The fog clears.
The anxiety softens.
The healing begins.
💪🏽 Back to Me. Back to Life.
So here’s what I’m doing with this clarity:
✔️ Back to my psychologist—because I deserve support.
✔️ Back to movement—Pilates, padel, swimming. My body wants to feel strong again.
✔️ Back to clean, nourishing food—because health is power.
✔️ Back to zero alcohol—because I choose clarity over coping.
✔️ Back to the people who truly care—those who see me.
✔️ Back to joy, laughter, and calm.
✔️ Back to reality—not the illusion I tried to survive in.
Because this is normal.
This—health, peace, truth, love—is what life is supposed to feel like.
And I will never again settle for less.
📌 A Date to Remember
I’m putting this date in my calendar—not as a wound, but as a milestone.
🗓️ A reminder:
That the truth did come.
That I listened to it.
That I chose myself.
That I will never go back.
Not because I’m bitter, but because I’m better.
This is the line in the sand.
This is the chapter change.
This is the start of my story now.
💬 To Anyone Reading This:
If you’re holding on to something that doesn’t feel right… trust the feeling.
If the truth is whispering to you, let it speak.
And when the moment comes that it all makes sense, let yourself grieve—and then rise.
Mark that date.
Choose your life.
And never, ever look back.
— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
