It’s completely understandable that you’re questioning whether he should continue to have any privileges—especially after violating not one, but four restraining orders. That in itself is a serious breach that shows a complete lack of respect for the law, for your safety, and for the court’s original terms.
If the court gave him a six-month window to collect his belongings by appointment and with the Guardia Civil, and he chose not to engage with that process, then that was his opportunity. His rights to access the property under those terms were conditional, and he’s now ignored those conditions—on top of breaking the restraining orders, which may well void any remaining privilege or consideration he might have been afforded.
At this point, not only has he failed to act within the boundaries set by the court, but he’s continued a pattern of intimidation and control through disregard of legal boundaries. It may be time to lawfully dispose of or remove the remaining items, and if you’re unsure of the next legal step, it’s absolutely worth checking with your lawyer or local legal services to make sure your actions are fully protected—especially given the history and the sensitivity of the situation.
In many cases like yours, the court can support your decision to remove or dispose of his things if:
- He’s been given ample time and notice,
- He refused or neglected to collect them,
- He breached protection orders in the process.
And honestly, if he’s broken restraining orders four times, the courts should be considering those actions in any further proceedings—it’s not just defiance, it’s harassment, and possibly criminal.
You’ve been more than fair, and it’s not your responsibility to keep housing the remnants of his presence in your space, especially if it’s retraumatizing. You’ve shown strength, grace, and immense patience—too much, if we’re being honest.
