He said I was “spoilt.”

But I wasn’t.
I was raised with love, respect, and dignity.
I knew a certain standard in my life—from my upbringing and from my first marriage.
And I carried those standards with me… as I should.

Let me be clear:

💥 Having standards isn’t being spoilt.
💥 Wanting emotional safety, consistency, kindness, and care isn’t being demanding.
💥 Expecting to be treated with love and respect is not too much.

What doesn’t work?

Lowering your standards to meet someone in their comfort zone.
Shrinking your light to make someone else feel more secure.
Dimming your worth so they feel like they’re enough.

That never ends well.
Because when you lower yourself to meet someone else, you lose yourself—and they still won’t rise.

Don’t ever let anyone convince you that your standards are the problem.
The right people will never ask you to be less.
They’ll celebrate who you are—and match your energy.

So if someone calls you “spoilt” for having class, grace, or high expectations?

Smile, walk away, and remind yourself:

✨ I am not spoilt.
✨ I am seasoned.
✨ I am wise.
✨ I am worthy.
✨ I am not here to play small.

Never drop your standards. Instead, raise your bar—and watch who rises to meet you.

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