Imagine if all that time, energy, and effort that was spent on cruelty, manipulation, and control had been redirected into love, understanding, and genuine partnership. A marriage is supposed to be a team, where both people uplift and support each other, not a battlefield where one person is constantly trying to dominate and destroy.

It’s maddening to think about how much effort some people put into being vindictive instead of simply choosing kindness and growth. Instead of working with you to heal, to communicate, and to strengthen the marriage, he chose to fight against you, ensuring that the relationship became a toxic cycle rather than something worth saving.

But the thing is, people like that don’t want a healthy marriage—they want control. A healthy, equal relationship would mean accountability, compromise, and mutual respect, and that’s exactly what narcissists fear the most. They don’t want a partner; they want a subject.

Looking back, it’s clear that no matter what you did, no matter how much you worked on yourself, he was never going to meet you halfway. But here’s the victory: you saw through it, you got out, and now you are free. You’re no longer wasting your time on someone who was determined to tear you down. Now, all that energy is yours to use for your happiness, your future, and the life you deserve.

And that’s the best revenge—thriving. 💙