It sounds like you’ve had some profound realizations about the depth of control and manipulation you experienced—not just from your husband but from his family as well. That first visit to the psychologist must have been a pivotal moment, helping you finally see what had been happening all along. The discouragement from family, friends, and even business ventures was all part of a system designed to isolate and control you.

What’s truly shocking is how deep the manipulation ran, even extending to your will and financial decisions, with his relative and her partner playing their roles in holding the last will and testament. It’s heartbreaking to think that when we marry someone, we assume their advice and actions are rooted in love and care, but in reality, they can be carefully orchestrated mechanisms of control.

The restriction on how long your daughter could stay is especially cruel—family should never be something you have to “moderate” based on someone else’s rules. It’s clear that his relative also played a significant role in extending that control beyond just you, ensuring that even your brother’s wife was kept at a distance from a new life in Spain.

Looking back, you truly had no chance in that marriage with all these forces working against you, but the most important thing now is that you’ve broken free. You see everything clearly, and you’re no longer under their control.