When the Person You Fear May Be Involved in Illicit or Disturbing Behavior (Especially within Domestic Abuse or Coercive Control) ✨ You are not overreacting.✨ You are not to blame.✨ And you do not have to carry this terrifying secret alone. 🔥 Common Scenarios Survivors Face: This is not normal. This is not safe. This… Read More 💔 Safe Reporting for Survivors
For Survivors Who Feel Unsafe Reporting Illicit Images or Abuse 💡 You don’t have to do everything at once. Start where you feel safest.Your voice matters — and there are safe ways to act. 🔹 1. Do Not Confront the Person ☐ Stay calm — do not accuse, question, or hint at what you know☐ Avoid talking about… Read More 🛡️ Safe Reporting Checklist
“Thick Cow,” “Sh*t for Brains,” “75%”—When Verbal Abuse Becomes a War on the MindBy Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Advocate You weren’t being “too sensitive.”You weren’t imagining it.You were being verbally and psychologically assaulted, day after day—by someone who was supposed to protect you. “Thick cow.”“Sh*t for brains.”“Your kids hate you.”“You’re stupid. You’re… Read More Annihilation – Punch Bag
Embracing New Beginnings: Finding Joy After Adversity… Read More Embracing New Beginnings: Finding Joy After Adversity
Embrace new possibilities and explore a fresh path. Trying someone completely different—whether it’s in relationships, friendships, or partnerships—can be both exciting and eye-opening. Often, we gravitate toward the familiar because it feels safe, but stepping outside our usual type or comfort zone can lead to incredible growth and experiences.
Choosing someone younger, fitter, taller, sportier, or more adventurous might challenge preconceived ideas and help you discover parts of yourself you didn’t know were there. Perhaps they could inspire you to embrace new hobbies, explore the world with more curiosity, or see life from a fresh perspective. These differences can bring a complementary dynamic, teaching both people how to balance their unique strengths.… Read More Explore a fresh path
Instead of fearing failure or seeing it as a setback, you now view it as a necessary step toward growth. You understand that mistakes are opportunities to learn and that failure is not the end but a point of refinement. This shift in perspective helps you keep moving forward, even when faced with challenges. It’s normal for this realization to unfold gradually, often as you look back on how far you’ve come. It’s like discovering layers of yourself that you didn’t know were there—strengths you didn’t even recognize until you encountered something that demanded them. And when you do realize how much stronger you are, it feels less like a sudden surge of power and more like a steady, quiet confidence that you carry with you every day. It’s humbling and inspiring, and it marks the beginning of new possibilities in your life.… Read More Strength
Feedback is a vital component of personal growth and healing. Whether it comes from within or from trusted individuals around you, understanding how others perceive your progress or how you perceive yourself can help guide your journey. Being open to feedback is a sign of true commitment to your growth, and it allows you to adjust your path in a way that feels right for you.
Remember that feedback is not about judgment; it’s about gaining insight and learning. It’s okay to take what resonates with you and leave the rest behind. The most important thing is that you continue to move forward, trusting that every step you take is bringing you closer to the life you want to create.… Read More Seeking Feedback as Part of Your Growth Journey
Being on the right track in life is not about perfection or getting it all figured out. It’s about making consistent progress, no matter how small, and feeling a growing sense of alignment with who you are and where you want to go. Remember that healing and growth are lifelong journeys, and it’s okay to move at your own pace.… Read More Am I on the Right Track?
Identify the Negative Thought: Write down the negative thought as soon as you notice it. Be honest with yourself about what you’re thinking, even if it feels uncomfortable.
Example: “I’ll never be able to stay sober; I’m too weak.”
Challenge the Thought: Ask yourself if this thought is entirely true. Often, our negative thoughts are exaggerated or distorted. Consider the evidence that both supports and contradicts the thought.
Questions to consider: “Is this thought based on facts or feelings?” “Have I had successes in the past?”
Write a Positive or Neutral Counter-Statement: Replace the negative thought with a statement that is more supportive, encouraging, and realistic.
Positive counter-statement: “I’ve faced difficult challenges before and come out stronger. Every day I stay sober is a step toward a healthier life.”
Repeat as Needed: Make this a daily habit. Keep a journal where you can regularly challenge and reframe negative thoughts. Over time, you’ll start to notice patterns in your thinking and will be able to counteract them more naturally.… Read More Reframing
Success breeds confidence: Each successful experience solidifies your belief in your abilities. It tells your brain, “I did it before, so I can do it again.” This is crucial because self-efficacy is largely based on past experiences of success.
Handling adversity builds resilience: When people encounter challenges, overcoming them teaches perseverance. These moments build a belief that, with effort, future problems can be managed, no matter how hard they seem initially.
Practice increases competence: The more you practice and gain experience, the more your skills improve. As your competence increases, so does your confidence in facing similar or even more difficult tasks in the future.… Read More Why Mastery Experiences Build Self-Efficacy
