Tag: relationships

“Oh, the Hypocrisy of It All”: When the Ones Who Restrict Your Family Ties Accuse You of Being the Dysfunctional One

Some words stick in your memory like a splinter in the soul. I remember being accused of having a dysfunctional family relationship — by his sister.The same sister who declared she’d never leave the UK because of her strong ties to family. The same one who knew full well that her brother was preventing me — emotionally, financially, and logistically — from… Read More “Oh, the Hypocrisy of It All”: When the Ones Who Restrict Your Family Ties Accuse You of Being the Dysfunctional One

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✨“A Basic Human Right: When Visiting Family Is Treated Like a Crime”✨

It’s funny what memories float up on a hot summer’s night in Spain.Tonight, sitting outside with my loyal companion Ellie — my beloved black Labrador — I found myself thinking about my trip to Perth, Australia. A trip that should have been joyful. A reunion with my daughter, her husband, and my grandson, whom I… Read More ✨“A Basic Human Right: When Visiting Family Is Treated Like a Crime”✨

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Let’s Get One Thing Clear: A Fight is One Thing. Abuse is Something Else.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

It’s one of the most damaging myths survivors are told: “You just need to kiss and make up.”“All couples fight — you just have to let it go.”“Stop bringing up the past.” No. Let’s get one thing absolutely clear. An argument is a disagreement.Abuse is a pattern of power, control, and harm. ☑️ Arguments happen between… Read More Let’s Get One Thing Clear: A Fight is One Thing. Abuse is Something Else.

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This was my job in HR in my old life – Myers Briggs Personality Types

💫 Core Traits of the ESFP Personality: 1. Extraverted (E):ESFPs thrive on connection. You gain energy from being around people, and you often feel most alive when you’re fully engaged with others — whether that’s hosting a dinner party, leading a spontaneous road trip, or being the heart of a celebration. You’re approachable, charming, and… Read More This was my job in HR in my old life – Myers Briggs Personality Types

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💔💗 The Difference Between Make-Up Sex and Trauma Bond Sex

Because one heals you — and the other keeps you hooked. Let’s talk about it.Because for those of us who’ve been in toxic relationships, the lines can blur.We’ve been conditioned to associate intensity with love, chaos with chemistry, and adrenaline with intimacy.So when we finally experience something healthy — calm, grounded, mutual — it can feel… almost foreign. But the body knows… Read More 💔💗 The Difference Between Make-Up Sex and Trauma Bond Sex

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💬 Sex After a Disagreement: Healthy or Harmful?

Why It Feels Fated Every memory is stored in your hippocampus — the movie reel of your emotional life. When love blooms, the brain replays all those moments: the jokes, the care, the time they showed up. And the subconscious whispers: “Of course it’s them.”

We’ve all heard about “make-up sex” — that fiery, passionate reconnection that often follows a heated argument. For some couples, it can be incredibly bonding. For others, it can be confusing, or even retraumatizing. So when is it healthy — and when is it not? 🧠 From a neuroscience perspective: After conflict, our nervous systems are activated —… Read More 💬 Sex After a Disagreement: Healthy or Harmful?

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🧯Repair vs. Ruin: What Healthy Conflict Looks Like

Because real love doesn’t mean never fighting — it means knowing how to fight fair. Let’s be honest:Even the healthiest couples bicker about nonsense. We’ve all been there.The real difference between a lasting love and a doomed one? It’s not whether you fight.It’s how you fight.So let’s talk about the difference between repair… and ruin. 💥 RUIN Looks Like:… Read More 🧯Repair vs. Ruin: What Healthy Conflict Looks Like

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💬 “Real Men Don’t Play Games — They Ask Real Questions.”

Because connection isn’t built on performance — it’s built on presence. Let’s be real.Most of us have had enough of guessing games, mind-reading, emotional hide-and-seek, and breadcrumb affection.The older we get, the clearer it becomes:Games are for boys. Questions are for men. And real men? They aren’t afraid of the truth — they lean into it. 🧠… Read More 💬 “Real Men Don’t Play Games — They Ask Real Questions.”

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💬 “Being Right All the Time Isn’t Sexy. Being Emotionally Present Is.”

Let’s talk about what actually creates connection — and what quietly destroys it. We’ve been taught a lie — that the smartest person in the room is the most attractive.That having all the answers, winning every argument, and being the loudest voice makes someone powerful.But here’s the truth: 🧠 Being right isn’t the same as being… Read More 💬 “Being Right All the Time Isn’t Sexy. Being Emotionally Present Is.”

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🤍 Emotional Intelligence is the New Sexy

Why the most attractive man is the one who listens, learns, and grows with you. Let’s get something straight:Being right all the time isn’t attractive.Being emotionally present is.Being able to say “I got that wrong” is. There is nothing more magnetic than a man who can: This is the kind of man who leads not with bravado, but with emotional intelligence. 🧠 From… Read More 🤍 Emotional Intelligence is the New Sexy

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