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The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps: Con Men, Pretenders, and Emotional Fraud

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Dating apps aren’t inherently bad — but they are highly efficient environments for deception. They allow people to present a carefully curated version of themselves with very little accountability, history, or social consequence. And that creates opportunity — not just for romance, but for manipulation. Who Thrives on Dating Apps (and Why) Dating apps are especially attractive… Read More The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps: Con Men, Pretenders, and Emotional Fraud

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Repetition Compulsion in Psychodynamic Therapy

Definition:Repetition compulsion is a concept introduced by Sigmund Freud in psychoanalytic theory. It refers to the tendency of individuals to repeat behaviors, situations, or relationships that mirror unresolved conflicts or traumatic experiences from the past, often unconsciously. How It Manifests Example:A person who grew up with inconsistent parental care may unconsciously seek partners who are emotionally unavailable,… Read More Repetition Compulsion in Psychodynamic Therapy

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In Simple Terms: What’s Actually Going On

This isn’t new behaviour.It’s the same pattern that’s been happening for decades — just playing out in a different way. When someone ignores divorce proceedings, doesn’t respond to solicitors, blocks the sale of a house, removes signs, and then later blames or sues you for delays — that isn’t confusion or bad communication. It’s control.… Read More In Simple Terms: What’s Actually Going On

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The Core Move: Pre‑emptive Inversion

When someone says: “You have no filter”“You’re too harsh”“You’re aggressive” while they use foul language, character attacks, and accusations in private, they are doing something called: Defensive Attribution + Projection Neurologically, this is about threat detection, not communication. 1. Exposure Triggers the Threat Response When an abuser senses that: Their amygdala fires — not from fear of harm, but fear… Read More The Core Move: Pre‑emptive Inversion

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Exposing the Abuser (No Sugar-Coating)

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Let’s start with the truth most survivors are pressured not to say: Abusers rely on silence, minimisation, and “being the bigger person.”Protection of abusers is one of the most socially normalised forms of harm. 1. Abuse Is Not “Loss of Control” — It Is Selective Control Abusers: Then claim: “I just snapped”“I’m blunt”“I was stressed”“That’s just how I… Read More Exposing the Abuser (No Sugar-Coating)

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Aggressive Communication

What Those Statements Actually Are Examples: These are NOT: These ARE: Why This Is Not Just “Unfiltered Honesty” 1. They Target Identity, Not Behavior Unfiltered honesty can still focus on actions: “This task wasn’t completed.” Your examples focus on who the person is: 📍 The brain experiences this as a social threat, activating the same neural pathways as physical danger. 2.… Read More Aggressive Communication

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Why family members often enable abuse

This is a crucial piece of the picture — and one that causes survivors enormous secondary harm. Psychology and neuroscience explain family enabling very clearly. 1. Threat to the family identity Families function as identity systems, not just groups of individuals. When abuse is acknowledged, it threatens: The brain treats this as an existential threat, activating the amygdala. Under… Read More Why family members often enable abuse

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Do abusers ever look outside the box and imagine it happening to their own loved ones?

Most do not — and when they do, it is usually abstract, not empathic. 1. Empathy is compartmentalised, not absent Contrary to popular belief, many abusers are not “emotionless.” They can show selective empathy — especially toward people they identify with or feel ownership over (their mother, daughter, family name). Neuroscience shows this as compartmentalisation in the brain: So… Read More Do abusers ever look outside the box and imagine it happening to their own loved ones?

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Abuse Doesn’t Have to End in Murder to Be Fatal

More survivors of domestic abuse died by suicide last year than were killed directly by a partner. This stark statistic from the Home Office exposes a truth that is still widely overlooked:domestic abuse kills — even when there are no visible injuries. Coercive control and psychological abuse work by stripping away a person’s autonomy, identity,… Read More Abuse Doesn’t Have to End in Murder to Be Fatal

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For Survivors Who Were Told They Were Wrong

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You were not imagining it.You were not too sensitive.You were not confused, dramatic, vindictive, or unstable. What you sensed was real — and the fact that others dismissed it does not make it less true. From the very beginning, your body knew.The tightening in your chest.The sudden fatigue.The sense of walking on eggshells.The feeling that something was off,… Read More For Survivors Who Were Told They Were Wrong

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