Emotional Blackmail in Divorce: How Manipulators Use Legal Threats and Social Pressure to Gain the Upper Hand

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate Divorce is often one of the most emotionally charged and stressful experiences in a person’s life. During such a vulnerable time, emotional blackmail can be used as a manipulative tactic to gain control and unbalance the individual. When threats of legal action, the implication that friends or… Read More Emotional Blackmail in Divorce: How Manipulators Use Legal Threats and Social Pressure to Gain the Upper Hand

Projection in Psychology: A Mirror of the Unseen Self

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate In my therapy work, and in everyday life, I often come across the concept of projection. It’s one of the most common—yet often misunderstood—psychological mechanisms we experience, and it can have a significant impact on our relationships, our healing, and our self-understanding. So let’s take a moment to… Read More Projection in Psychology: A Mirror of the Unseen Self

“They Don’t Think They’re the Problem”: Why Many Emotionally Abusive People See Themselves as the Victim

A Psychological Perspective for Survivors and AdvocatesBy Linda C J Turner Therapy “You can’t heal in the same environment that broke you. But you can understand it — and finally set yourself free.” In the complex world of emotional abuse, one of the most disorienting realities for survivors is that many abusers genuinely believe they are… Read More “They Don’t Think They’re the Problem”: Why Many Emotionally Abusive People See Themselves as the Victim

The Sadism of Control: A Closer Look at the Cruelty of Abusers

The Sadism of Control: A Closer Look at the Cruelty of Abusers At the heart of many abusive dynamics lies a disturbing truth—some abusers derive real satisfaction from the suffering they cause. This isn’t just about control. This is about cruelty with intent. About watching someone else’s light dim and feeling powerful because of it. These… Read More The Sadism of Control: A Closer Look at the Cruelty of Abusers

The Role of Rejection: How Feelings of Rejection Lead to Rage and Violence

The Role of Rejection: How Feelings of Rejection Lead to Rage and Violence Rejection, in its various forms, can have a profound psychological impact on individuals. It’s not just the experience of being turned down that causes harm, but how an individual processes and reacts to rejection. Studies in psychology have found that rejection, especially… Read More The Role of Rejection: How Feelings of Rejection Lead to Rage and Violence

The Arrogance of the Unaware: When Delusion Meets Entitlement

Have you ever encountered someone so wrapped up in their own self-importance that they seem completely oblivious to how others perceive them? Their arrogance is astonishing, their delusion breathtaking, and their lack of self-awareness almost comical—if it weren’t so infuriating. These individuals glide through life under the illusion that their behavior is entirely acceptable, largely… Read More The Arrogance of the Unaware: When Delusion Meets Entitlement

Causes Emotional Distance & Resentment

When everyone in a family or social group has to tiptoe around someone with an explosive temper just to keep the peace, it creates a toxic and unhealthy dynamic. This kind of environment destroys trust, safety, and emotional well-being for everyone involved. Instead of healthy communication, the relationship is ruled by fear, anxiety, and avoidance. Here’s what happens over time when people are forced… Read More Causes Emotional Distance & Resentment

What is Cognitive Dissonance?

What is Cognitive Dissonance? Cognitive dissonance is a psychological state where a person holds two or more conflicting thoughts, beliefs, or values, creating mental discomfort. To reduce this discomfort, people often justify, minimize, or rationalize their conflicting beliefs rather than change them. In an abusive relationship, cognitive dissonance occurs when the victim experiences both love and fear toward… Read More What is Cognitive Dissonance?